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The Hardcore Self Help Podcast with Duff the Psych

This is a podcast dedicated to answering your questions about mental health, anxiety, depression, relationships, sex, and life WITHOUT psychobabble BS. I am Dr. Robert Duff, a psychologist from Southern California, but I'm also a regular dude who legitimately wants to help out. I wrote the best selling books Hardcore Self Help: F**k Depression and Hardcore Self Help: F**K Anxiety. Those are available at http://hardcoreselfhelp.com
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Nov 19, 2021

Hello, all! Apologies in advance for my croaky voice. My voice is totally shot from the week, but I do my best to give you responses to the following awesome questions:

  • I have brought about my own problems and don't feel that I deserve to get better. How do I approach this seemingly insurmountable problem?
  • My partner and I are on a break to work on ourselves after suffering a number of losses and a terrible year overall. How can I make this work?

As always, you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode279

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This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by BetterHelp.

If you are in a mental health slump, consider reaching out to a licensed professional to help. BetterHelp has a large counselor network and you can begin chatting with someone very quickly. Check out betterhelp.com/duff to get 10% off your first month.

Nov 12, 2021

Hello, friends! After a quick update about the whole Thanksgiving situation at my kid's school, I dive into the following amazing questions:

  • My previous therapist was sexually inappropriate. How can I trust therapists again?
  • My depression doesn't go away no matter what I do and I'm not making progress in therapy. What can I do?

As always, you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and show notes are available at http://duffthepsych.com/episode278

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Nov 5, 2021

Hello, friends! In this episode, I start with some concerns from my personal life that tie into some social psychology concepts before jumping into the following questions:

  • Co-parenting with my ex is difficult given our difference in opinion about discipline. How do I stop our interactions from driving me crazy?
  • My partner retreats and can't feel anything when he is in a depressive state. What can I do to make him know that I'm here for him?

As always, you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and show notes are available at http://duffthepsych.com/episode277

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If you are in a mental health slump, consider reaching out to a licensed professional to help. BetterHelp has a large counselor network and you can begin chatting with someone very quickly. Check out betterhelp.com/duff to get 10% off your first month.

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Oct 29, 2021

Hello, friends! Super happy to bring you this Q&A episode today. I take the following questions:

  • What can I do when it feels like my wife doesn't care about me anymore?
  • Is there a point where the cost of healing just isn't worth it?

As always, you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and get show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode276

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Oct 22, 2021

Hello, friends! I have a really cool episode for you today. Meditation is a tool that I use often and is one of the most important things in my personal mental health toolkit. But for a lot of people, meditation just doesn't do the trick. Or it's too hard. Or it's actually scary.

In this episode, I share my best tips for meditation. I hope to get you to loosen your interpretation of meditation and the high expectations you put on yourself. 

Have a listen and let me know what you think!

As always you can send me questions for future episodes to duffthepsych@gmail.com and show notes are available at duffthepsych.com/episode275

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This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by BetterHelp and MasterClass.

If you are in a mental health slump, consider reaching out to a licensed professional to help. BetterHelp has a large counselor network and you can begin chatting with someone very quickly. Check out betterhelp.com/duff to get 10% off your first month.

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Oct 15, 2021

Hello, all! I hope that you are having a great week. I got a great episode for you here with the following questions:

  • How can I get help for my depression when I can't talk about my feelings?
  • How do I stop feeling like such a bad person all the time?

As always, you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes at duffthepsych.com/episode274

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Oct 8, 2021

Hello, friends! Got a nice Q&A for you today with a little rambling at the top. Here's what I answer:

  • My son went through a horrific tragedy. How can he move forward?
  • How can I avoid being so desperate for love?

As always, you can send me questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and show notes are available at duffthepsych.com/episode273

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Oct 1, 2021

Hello, all! So... I'm an idiot and had to record this episode twice. Oops. BUT I'm super glad to be releasing this. I answered the following awesome questions in this episode:

  • I have depression, OCD, PTSD, etc. and I have no idea how to explain all of this to my partner without overwhelming them. What do I do?
  • How can I get out of my pandemic rut when I have lost my zest for life and school?

As always, you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and show notes are available at duffthepsych.com/episode272

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Sep 24, 2021

Hello, friends! This episode is a nice Q&A with some great listener-submitted questions. The first one involves some discussion about suicide. Although nothing graphic, just be aware of that. Here are the two questions I cover this episode:

  • I have had thoughts of suicide for a long time, but have never made an attempt. How do I know when to take the thoughts seriously?
  • I am making mistakes at my new job and it's making me anxious and giving me insomnia. This is causing me to make more mistakes and I'm afraid I'm going to lose my job. How can I break this cycle?

As always, you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and full show notes are at duffthepsych.com/episode271

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This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by MasterClass and BetterHelp.

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If you are in a mental health slump, consider reaching out to a licensed professional to help. BetterHelp has a large counselor network and you can begin chatting with someone very quickly. Check out betterhelp.com/duff to get 10% off your first month.

 

Sep 17, 2021

Hello, friends! In this episode, I answer a couple listener questions that are less about direct advice and more about general questions in the field of mental health and psychology. Here's what I cover:

  • Why are there so few mental health providers and why are waitlists so long?
  • Does it make sense to have multiple overlapping diagnoses?

As always, you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and full show notes are at duffthepsych.com/episode270

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This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by BetterHelp.

If you are in a mental health slump, consider reaching out to a licensed professional to help. BetterHelp has a large counselor network and you can begin chatting with someone very quickly. Check out betterhelp.com/duff to get 10% off your first month.

Sep 10, 2021

Hello, friends! In this episode, I have a Q&A featuring the following questions:

  • How can I continue to work on my longtime childhood trauma when I don't remember a lot of my past?
  • Do I have a chance of getting back in my long-distance relationship even though I'm pursuing a Ph.D.?

As always, you can send me questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the full show notes at duffthepsych.com/episode269

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Sep 3, 2021

Hello, friends! On this episode, I had my wife back on the show. We just chilled on the couch and had a nice wide-ranging conversation about our lives right now, where our relationship is at, and even some of our pet peeves with each other. Enjoy!

Send me your questions for future episodes to duffthepsych@gmail.com and don't forget to check out my new book of 500 journal prompts!

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Aug 27, 2021

Alright, everyone! Another great Q&A for you featuring the following questions:

  • How can I move past my traumatic history of bullying and parental violence?
  • What is the difference between a friendship and intimate relationship?

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As always, you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and show notes are available at duffthepsych.com/episode267

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Aug 20, 2021

Hello, friends! This is a straightforward Q&A with the following questions:

  • How can I work on my social skills as a socially anxious introvert?
  • What can I do about my depression when I can't afford traditional therapy?

As always, you can send me questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and full show notes are at duffthepsych.com/episode266

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Aug 13, 2021

Hello, friends! Looks like I have a bit of a cold, so bear with my voice and breathing in this one. Got a great Q&A with the following thought-provoking questions:

  • I don't have many friends and find myself becoming attracted to my doctor. Is there something wrong with my relationship?
  • How can I deal with my jealousy and insecurity in relationships?

As always, you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and full show notes are at duffthepsych.com/episode265

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Aug 6, 2021

Hello, friends! Hope you are well. Cruising along over here. Super ready for a relaxing weekend. In this episode, I tackle the following questions:

  • I self-harmed (cut) when I was young and I still struggle with different forms of self-harm. Is therapy still an option?
  • What can I do to feel joy again when my depression is strong?

As always, you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes at duffthepsych.com/episode264

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Jul 30, 2021

Hello, everyone! At the start of this episode, I give a quick little ramble about a case that I'm working on to talk about some of the nuances with conservatorship and trying to help someone that can't care for their own needs. That's about the first 10 minutes. After that, I hop into the following questions:

  • My family thinks I should be able to fix them since I'm studying psychology. What should I do?
  • My sibling is afraid of having the same mental illness as me and our parent. How can I help?

As always, you can send your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and check out the full show notes at duffthepsych.com/episode263

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Jul 23, 2021

Hello, all! So just a little heads up. I'm super annoyed because in this episode, there were a couple undesirable sounds including a loud as cricket that wanted to ruin my life and also a rattling microphone that was being dramatic whenever I slightly bumped it.

Aside from that, it was a great episode that covers the following questions:

  • I love my partner, but I crave attention from others. Why am I this way and what can I do about it?
  • I may have borderline personality disorder, but don't want my diagnosis to be a crutch. What can I do to live a normal life?

As always, you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes at duffthepsych.com/episode262

 

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Jul 16, 2021

Hello, friends! Another Q&A Episode for you today featuring the following questions:

  • What can I do about my separation anxiety every time my partner leaves?
  • Why am I so mad at my therapist for diagnosing me with an eating disorder?

As always, you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the full show notes at duffthepsych.com/episode261

 

This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by BetterHelp.

If you are in a mental health slump, consider reaching out to a licensed professional to help. BetterHelp has a large counselor network and you can begin chatting with someone very quickly. Check out betterhelp.com/duff to get 10% off your first month.

Jul 9, 2021

Hello, all! I hope you're taking great care of yourselves. Been a busy busy week over here in DuffLand. In this episode, I cover the following awesome listener questions:

  • How can I overcome my lack of appetite due to anxiety?
  • What can I do about my negative body image?

As always, you can send me questions for the show to duffthepsych@gmail.com you can also find the full show notes at duffthepsych.com/episode260

 

This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by Audible.

Audible is the leading provider of spoken-word entertainment all in one place, where you can find the largest selection of audiobooks. Sign up now by heading to audible.com/duff or text duff to 500-500, and receive your first 30 days for free.

Jul 2, 2021

Hello, friends! I hope you are taking great care of yourselves this week. To be honest, I've seen a lot of people having a bit of a hard time. If you are in this camp, I see you! This episode features the following amazing listener questions:

  • My mother-in-law's son just died by suicide. How can I best support her?
  • I am hoping to return to work after taking a break due to severe mental health issues. How can I make it work?

As always you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and see full show notes at duffthepsych.com/episode259

This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by Better Help and Cozy Earth.

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Jun 25, 2021

Hello, friends! Back with part 2 of the rapid fire Q&A. There were so many awesome questions on my original post that I couldn't stop with one episode. Here are the questions I cover:

  • Hi Duff, you’ve touched on this before but… have you ever come across anyone stuck thinking they have reached their maximum potential in life/not sure where to go from their current spot in life, and is there anything you could offer from a physiological perspective to overcome this? Currently feeling like I will be forever stuck in this moment and moving forward seems nearly impossible. (Sorry in advance if the question doesn’t make sense)
  • How does one get over the expectation of being in a relationship? Like you grow up watching relationships and relationships but like...what if it doesn't happen? Should it happen? Also...how can one finally let go of what their parents didn't do while one was growing up... 
  • How can you learn to accept compliments and not be awkward?

I also talk a bit about my own strategies for combatting the darkness that can come with working in a heavily emotional field.

As always, you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com.

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Jun 18, 2021

Hello, all! In this episode, I am doing some rapid fire question and answer from a prompt that I threw up on Instagram. Please enjoy! 

If you have a question for the podcast that you'd like me to consider, please send it to duffthepsych@gmail.com and don't forget to use the search bar on duffthepsych.com if you want to see whether I have covered a specific topic in the past. 

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Jun 11, 2021

Hello, friends! This episode is a re-post of an interview I did a couple years ago with the amazing Dr. Laura Copley. Dr. Copley is a trauma specialist and talks all about PTSD, trauma misconceptions, posttraumatic growth, and gives you some practical tools to use if you encounter trauma in your life. 

She's doing a bunch of cool stuff including online courses, which you can learn all about over at lauracopley.com

As always, you can send me questions or topics to duffthepsych@gmail.com and also please let me know if you'd like me to start doing interviews again!

 

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Jun 4, 2021

Hello, friends! I hope you're having a really good week. Enjoyed making this episode for you. The questions here have somewhat of a theme. Here are the questions I take:

  • I don't have access to psychiatry in my area. Can I use St. John's wort to treat my depression?
  • I live in a place where mental health is taboo. How can I improve my anxiety around sleeping without treatment?

As always, you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and check out the show notes for this episode at duffthepsych.com/episode255.

 

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