The Hardcore Self Help Podcast with Duff the Psych

This is a podcast dedicated to answering your questions about mental health, anxiety, depression, relationships, sex, and life WITHOUT psychobabble BS. I am Dr. Robert Duff, a psychologist from Southern California, but I'm also a regular dude who legitimately wants to help out. I wrote the best selling books Hardcore Self Help: F**k Depression and Hardcore Self Help: F**K Anxiety. Those are available at
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Feb 27, 2020

This episode is a little different. Rather than doing a Q&A, interview, or deep dive, I just wanted to sit with you for a while and give you some updates on where I'm at in life. I'm a real person, just like you. That the whole point of this Duff the Psych "mental health for real people" thing. So, I want to talk with you about my unexpected career changes, what's going on with my kids, how my relationship is going, and just let you in on the guy that you listen to each week. Hope you aren't bored out of your mind!

As a reminder, the Kick Anxiety's Ass course is still going with the massive price drop down to $75 or $25 monthly. Check it out now while you still have the chance!

Feb 20, 2020

Hello, friends! This is a nice Q&A episode with questions covering a variety of topics. Hopefully I do a decent job responding despite my sleep deprivation and loopiness! 

Here are the questions I cover:

  • Is it okay to switch to a different type of therapy as you progress?
  • How can I intervene and better manage my 11-year-old's extreme behavior outbursts?
  • How can I avoid becoming my mother and ruining my relationship?

Don't forget that the massive price discount on the Kick Anxiety's Ass course is still on! Check it out at

As always, you can send me your questions to 

Feb 13, 2020

Hello, friends! This is a re-release of episode 98, which is an episode that I refer back to quite often on the show. I talk about the concept of exposure as it relates to anxiety and take you through different techniques for lowering your sensitivity to anxiety. This is must-know information for those that are serious about taking their lives back from anxiety.

I also discuss an immediate change to my online course, Kick Anxiety's Ass. The price has been drastically reduced from $300 to $75! Enrollment in the course will be closing on 3/15/20 so that we can revamp the course and add even more awesome features. 

In this episode, I also talk about my blogpost to help you find a therapist, which can be found at

Feb 6, 2020

In this episode, I take the following awesome listener questions:

  • What can I do about my postpartum anxiety and emetophobia?
  • Can you be traumatized by a thought?
  • Is it okay to avoid activities sometimes due to anxiety?

Please continue sending me your amazing questions to

For access to the bonus question, check out my Patreon.

This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp.

Jan 30, 2020

This is a very interesting interview with Cheryl B. Englehardt, who is a government scuba diver turned pop artist turned film composer turned meditation music maker. We talk about her life, struggles with panic attacks, and how starting a daily meditation practice helped stop them in their tracks. We also talk about her new album, Luminary, which is available now! 


Next week will be a Q&A episode, so send me your questions to and if you're interested in checking out my other podcast, about my life and family, have a look at my Patreon.

Jan 23, 2020

Hello, friends! Excited to bring you this new Q&A session with three awesome questions (plus one bonus question for Patreon). 

Here are the questions covered:

  • What can I do about blood, injury, and injection phobia?
  • How can I change my chronic suicidality?
  • How can I make my partner more supportive?

As always you can send me questions to

This week's sponsors are Openfit and BetterHelp

Jan 16, 2020

Super excited to present this episode to you. I had Dr. Steven Mandel on episode 137 of the podcast to talk about the amazing and life-saving treatment of Ketamine infusions, which have been shown to be an incredibly effective treatment for depression, suicidality, and trauma that doesn't respond well to other treatments. In this episode, we talk more about the difference between these IV infusions of Ketamine and a new player in the game, Ketamine nasal spray. Recently, an Esketamine nasal spray called Spravato was approved by the FDA for use in individuals with treatment-resistant depression. We explore what this means for your treatment and for your wallet.

This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by Future.

Jan 9, 2020

Hello, friends! Super happy to bring you this question and answer episode. You'll have to excuse my congestion. The plague continues in the Duff household. If you'd like to get a 4th bonus question, check out my patreon at

Here are the questions covered this week:

  • Should I be worried about the risks of Ketamine infusions?
  • How can I help my mother stop hoarding?
  • What is Acceptance and Commitment Therapy?

As always, if you have questions or topics to suggest, send them over to and stop by my start here page to learn more about what I do!

Jan 2, 2020

This episode is an interview with my wife, Joelle Duff. This is technically the first episode of our new Patreon exclusive Duff Family Podcast, which from here on will only be made available to patrons. That doesn't mean that she will never be on HCSH again, but if you want episodes each month, you'll need to head over the check out the Patreon. 

In this episode, we sit down on the couch together on New Years Eve 2019 to talk about this past year. This has been a rough one for us, and particularly for Joelle. She has had a severe bout of depression this year that really made things difficult for her. Instead of fighting it, she decided to try something different and lean into what her body was telling her. That meant more rest, alone time, etc. It also meant that she was able to recover enough energy to do some amazing stuff like get a dream job and continue being a fantastic mother, wife, and creative partner.

Thank you so much for spending the end of this decade with us. I'm bringing the fire into 2020, so be ready.

Please go show Joelle some love on twitter and instagram!

Dec 19, 2019

It's been a hell of a year and I think a lot of us could use a breather. In this episode, I take you through a guided meditation to help you get through the holidays, drop your baggage from 2019, and move confidently into 2020. Let's do this.

Dec 12, 2019

You guys seriously have the best questions. In this episode, I answer these three:

  • How can I get my doctors to take me seriously and not blame everything on anxiety?
  • What can I do about my one-sided sexual relationship?
  • How can I catch my strong emotions in the moment.


I have started a Patreon. There are several tiers that you can choose to support my mission to spread mental health content for real people. If you choose not to support, no hard feelings and absolutely nothing will change regarding the free content you get. But if you do choose to help out, there are some amazing bonuses such as...

  • Additional mental health videos
  • Bonus podcast questions
  • An exclusive Duff family podcast
  • ASMR videos
  • Guided relaxations
  • Live streams
  • Birthday shout outs
  • And more...
Dec 5, 2019

This episode is a fantastic interview with master couples therapist, Figs O'Sullivan. We spoke together about many topics related to discord in relationships. Figs believes that many of our issues within relationships come from our deep need for belonging and attachment. Rarely are arguments really about the surface level issue. Once we can admit to being wounded together. We can begin to heal together.

Figs has an app and online course available at

And if you use the coupon code "hardcore self help" you get 50% off!


I also have a couple sales going on. If you use coupon code "anxiousaf" you can get 30% off my ugly holiday sweaters and other designs in the Duff the Psych shop.

You can also get the Kick Anxiety's Ass course for 50% off through the end of the year. Click here or use the coupon code "holidayhalf". 

Nov 21, 2019

Hello, friends! Today we are tackling a single subject. Something that has been requested numerous times by you guys. That subject is impostor syndrome. In this episode, I will talk about what it is, why we tend to have it, and hopefully give you some tips that can make it impact you less. It's been a stressful week, so before we dive in I invite you to take a few breaths with me to help center ourselves.

If want to learn more about me, check out

Send me your questions and suggestions to


Today's sponsor is Kencko organic instant smoothies! Check them out at and use coupon code DUFF for a nice discount!

Nov 14, 2019

We are back again with a new Q&A episode! I'm sure you guys missed these over the past few weeks. A few really great questions in here including:

  • Is my excessive daydreaming bad?
  • What can I do about my boyfriend's mother mistreating him?
  • Why am I so scared to call in sick at work?

As always you can learn more about me by going to and if you have questions or topic suggestions, send them over to

This week's sponsors are:

Nov 7, 2019

Hello! I am back from vacation and wishing I never left! In all seriousness, I had a great time. But now I'm back with another great episode for you.

This episode is a recording of a live stream that I did on Mxiety's Mixer stream. She interviewed me and we cover a lot of ground. Included in the topics we discuss are:

  • The origin of my professional style
  • Why I think a lot of mental health content is inherently unempathetic
  • Resisting the lies anxiety tells you
  • How I feel about life coaches
  • The "end goal" of CBT treatment
  • Interesting future directions in the field

Mxiety is part of an amazing group of streamers that talk openly about mental health. Please go and support her at the following links:

Her Mixer page.

Her Twitter.

Her website.

Oct 31, 2019

Hello, friends! Happy Halloween! This is a re-release of an episode I did a couple years ago. Humans are amazing creatures, but we also have a dark side. In this episode, I dive into some of the social psychology experiments that help us understand some of the not-so-great sides of humanity. AND I do all of it in a dramatic reading voice with eerie music in the background. Enjoy!

Oct 24, 2019

This is a great interview with rehabilitation neuropsychologist, Meghan Beier, Ph.D. While she focuses mainly on individuals living with multiple sclerosis (M.S.), we cover a lot of topics that are applicable to anyone living with a chronic illness. We discuss the mental health and cognitive impacts of chronic illness as well as navigating issues such as family and finding providers that "get it".

Is there a topic you'd like me to interview someone about or cover on my own? Shoot me an email to

Oct 17, 2019

Hello, friends! There are several episodes of the podcast that I refer back to constantly. Episode 26, where I talk all about sleep is one of those. I talk about it in other podcast episodes, I talk about it with my patients, and I talk about it with people in my daily life. It turns out that at 180 episodes of the podcast so far, episode 26 is kind of hard to find. A lot of podcast players only keep the most recent 100 episodes. So, I'm re-doing it. This is not a re-release of that episode, but a re-recording of it with some new thoughts added in. 

In this episode, I talk about why sleep is important for memory, health, and mental health. From there, I talk about important sleep hygiene tips that will help you get better sleep. If you have any trouble falling asleep or staying asleep, this episode is for you!

If you have questions or topic suggestions, please send them to!

Sponsors for this episode are Creating Better Days CBD products (coupon code SELFHELP) and Warby Parker!

Oct 10, 2019

Hello, friends!

In this episode, I talk to licensed psychotherapist and sex advisor, Alison Leigh. Alison specializes in helping people in relationships overcome barriers to happiness and fulfillment, which often involves looking at the sexual relationship. In this interview, we talk about common barriers to intimacy, the impact of stress on relationships, and some strategies that she uses with her clients to encourage intimate connection. It was a good episode and I hope you enjoy it!

As a reminder, my comprehensive online course to help you take your live back from anxiety is $200 off up until 10/15/19, so act now if you want to take advantage of this offer. Use the coupon code "five" at checkout, or simply follow this link to the course page.

This episode is brought to you by Creating Better Days CBD products. Creating Better Days has a wide range of pure CBD and full-spectrum products to help you with stress, sleep, and pain. They submit each batch of their product to independent lab testing and provide the results to you so you can know exactly what you're getting. For 20% off your first purchase, head to and use the coupon code SELFHELP.

Oct 3, 2019

Hello, everyone! Happy to bring you another great question and answer episode today. Before that a quick announcement.

October is my birth month and this year marks 5 years since starting the Duff the Psych brand. I'm so excited to continue this journey with you all and feeling immensely grateful. So all this month, I will be doing giveaways, freebies, discounts, and special events. Follow along on my Facebook page to get notified about all the good stuff coming up!

The first exciting announcement for this month is that I will be temporarily providing a $200 discount on my Kick Anxiety's Ass online course until October 15th. That means that you can get the entire 10-module course for just $100, which is honestly an insane value. Use the coupon code "five" or follow this link to check it out!

Anyway, here are the questions I answer in this episode:

  • I feel like my issues are not bad enough for therapy and I should just suck it up. What can I do to start getting over it?
  • How can I help my severe anxiety and nausea that starts in the early morning?
  • My friend's boyfriend has depression and has become distant. What should she do?

This episode is brought to you by MycoMeditations Psilocybin-Assisted Retreats! Check out more about their amazing 7-day retreats in Jamaica, which are fully legal and exceptionally well-reviewed!

As always, you can send me your questions and topic suggestions to

Sep 26, 2019

This episode features an interview with Jen Lumanlan from Your Parenting Mojo. In her own words, "I don’t have much in the way of parenting instinct but I make up for it with outstanding research skills." Interestingly, by way of analyzing the research on parenting and starting her own podcast, she has been able to develop a true intuition and ease for parenting. Jen has a blog and podcast called Your Parenting Mojo that looks to the research to answer questions like "How do you parent a highly sensitive child" or "How do you use non-violent communication with kids?"

This episode is an interesting one because we actually dive deep into problem solving some issues I was having with my own kids at the time. I actually held off on releasing this for a while because I felt like I may have been a bit defensive or negative. Jen was awesome though. Funny enough, the issues that we talked about are largely non-issues now just a couple months later. Kids amirite?

Some links:

First off, go check out Jen at

She also talked a bit at self-determination, which you can learn more about at

Finally, she referred to Parentifact, which you can see here:


Next week should be another Q&A, so if you have questions for me, please send them to or head over the and see the contact page.

Sep 19, 2019

Hello, friends! In this episode podcast, I do a little Q&A with some really awesome questions. For one reason or another, I also felt a little silly so have fun with my rambles and random laughter. Here are the questions that I cover:

  • How can I make gaming a healthy part of my life and not let it interfere with more important things?
  • What does it mean to "process" trauma?
  • What can I do about my postpartum social anxiety?

As always, you can check out the full show notes at and you can learn more about me at If you have questions, send them over to

This episode of the Hardcore Self Help Podcast is sponsored by MycoMeditations Psilocybin-Assisted Retreats. MycoMeditations provides a legal means of experiencing the transformative and healing properties of the psilocybin mushroom. They provide 7-day retreats in Jamaica that involve guided psilocybin treatments, group processing, massage, accommodations, and authentic Jamaican cuisine. Learn all about MycoMeditations at their website or on episode 171 of the podcast, where I interview their founder.

Sep 12, 2019

This was a fantastic interview with public health psychologist, Dr. Perry Halkitis. We talk about disparities in health and mental health treatment for LGBTQ individuals and how they have changed over the years. He also shares some information about his own unique personal and career path.

Unfortunately, my side of the audio is a little blown out, but Dr. Halkitis sounds great and I think that his message was too good to not share with you all. I think it's well worth a listen. 

Full episode show notes are available at

Sponsor: This episode is brought to you by MycoMeditations Psilocybin-Assisted Retreats. They provide legal 7-day retreats in Jamaica that use the psychedelic psilocybin compound to help you work through significant mental health issues. For more information about MycoMeditations, check out their website or listen to episode 171 of the podcast where I interview their founder. 

Sep 5, 2019

This is a really great question and answer episode. If you hear some crickets chirping in the background, that is because it's hot as balls outside, even at 11pm and there was no way I was about to record with the window closed. Here are the questions that I cover:

  • How can I address my anxiety about driving on the highway?
  • What do I do about my husband's overly affectionate mother?
  • How can I prevent burnout as a mental health professional?

As always you can send me your questions to and full show notes are available at

This episode is brought to you by Better Help and Warby Parker

Aug 29, 2019

This week I have an incredible and inspiring interview with Tiffany Jenkins. Tiffany is a wife, mother, author, content creator and a recovering addict, she’s the face behind Juggling the Jenkins and author of “High Achiever: The Incredible True Story of One Addicts Double Life”.

She described this episode as a free therapy session, which I take as a compliment. I think you will really enjoy this interview.

Full show notes available at

If you'd like to learn more about me, check out

Next week should be a Q&A, so please send your questions and topic suggestions to

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