Hello, friends! What a week. I'm alive and well, but unfortunately things have been a bit heavy over here. I start off with a little personal update and then into the following great questions:

• My partner is autistic and talks constantly about her trauma. It's too much for me. What can I do?
• I am a woman with ADHD and have shame and anxiety because of it. How can I rebuild my self-concept?

As always, you can send me questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode314

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Hello, friends! This is a simpler check-in episode. I update you on what has been going on in my life - particularly this wild week. I also revisit my goals that I outlined for the year and reflect on what has stuck, what has faded, and what I'm okay moving on from. Hope you enjoy! 

As always, you can send me questions for a future episode to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode313

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Hello, everyone! I hope you've had a great week. Back at you with an awesome Q&A featuring the following questions:

• My ex-wife was emotionally abusive and controlling to me. We share children and she is constantly belittling me when we interact. What can I do?
• My psychologist does not seem to be trying very hard in sessions. How can I fix things?

As always, you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode312

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Hello, friends! I hope you are staying cool and hydrated if you are in one of the major heatwave areas! In this episode, I answer the following awesome listener questions:

• How can I stop procrastinating on household tasks, homework, and my job? 
• My partner said he can't fulfill my love language. What can I do?

As always, you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode311

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Hello, all! This is a really interesting mix of questions. So stick around until the second one to hear me dish out some tough love.

Here are the questions covered:

• Are we able to do genetic testing to tell which antidepressants will work for an individual?
• I hate having sex with my husband. What can I do?

As always, you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode310

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Hello, friends. In this episode, I answer two questions that encompass difficulties within family relationships. Here are the questions:

• My wife belittles me and makes me feel terrible constantly. What should I do?
• I'm thinking of cutting off contact with my mother, but I also have a lot of empathy for her. How should I proceed?

As always, you can send me questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode309

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Hello, all. A big content warning for this episode, the first question deals with suicide and has a bit more detail than other questions I've answered on the show. It's a very worthwhile question and a great topic to discuss, but I just want to make you aware of that.

Here are the topics covered in this Q&A episode:

• I saw my elderly father kill himself and I am so angry at him. What can I do?
• My friend stopped medication for anxiety and depression, but she is thinking about starting again. What else can she do to help herself out?

As always, you can send me questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes to this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode308. 

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Hello, all! In this episode, I take on two really good listener questions. The second one mentions sexual abuse of a child, but there are no details shared. Here are the questions covered:

• How can I start to set boundaries with loved ones when it feels so hard?
• How can I improve my sexual relationship with me husband after I have experienced childhood abuse?

As always, you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode307

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Hello, all! This is a great Q&A episode featuring the following questions from awesome listeners like yourself:

• My partner left due to me not pursuing her enough. Does it make sense to try to get back together after some time?
• I had to leave college due to bipolar. Should I go back to the same school after stabilizing? 

As always, you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode306

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Hello, friends! I hope you have had a great week. We are back to the Q&A format this week with the following questions:

• How can I overcome my tendency to overthink constantly?
• Why do I get extremely embarrassed so often in social situations? What can I do about it?

As always, you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode305

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Hello, everyone! In this epidode, my beautiful wife, Joelle, comes back on the show for a quick chat about life. We sat on the couch and had a cozy talk about all sorts of topics. I hope you enjoy!

As always, you can send me questions to future episodes to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode304

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Hello, all! Straight forward Q&A this week with the following awesome listener questions:

• I used to be able to have sex numerous times consecutively, but ever since a panic attack, I havet been unable to. What is going on?
• I am having trouble doing my therapist's exposure activities due to panic attacks. How can I do better?

As always, you can send me questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode303

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Hello, friends! I hope you're doing well. After a very gross story at the top of the episode, I get into the following questions:

• What can I do about decreased intimacy in my marriage?
• I am too depressed to do anything what can I do?

As always, you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode302

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Hello, everyone! I hope you're having a great week. Just a nice straightfoward Q&A for you today featuring the following questions:

• After 12 years of a great marriage, my husband had a sudden realization that he wants to leave. What can I do?
• My mother was in a terrible car crash and is afraid of remembering what happened. Is that a possibility?

As always, you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode301

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Hello, everyone! 

Episode 300!! Holy moly. Thank you so much for sticking with me on this ride. I appreciate your trust and attention so very much. This episode is much like any other. A solid question and answer featuring the following:

• How can I ask for help as an 18-year-old guy?
• My relationship failed due to my inability to communicate my feelings. How can I improve?

As always, you can send me questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and you can find the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode300

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Hello, friends! I hope you've had a really good week. My week here has been pretty good. As I mention in the episode, I didn't really plan anything good for the 300th episode of the show, BUT I wanted to open things up to you all. If you have written in a question or heard a question from the show that caused you to make a change in your life or there is a follow up story to your original question, I'd love to hear it. Shoot me an email to duffthepsych@gmail.com!

Anyways, here are the questions that I cover in this episode:

• Why did nobody tell me that there is mind-based and body-based anxiety?
• I have experienced a lot of mistreatment and discrimination in my life. This has led to a victim mentality. How do I get myself out of the victim mentality and start taking ownership of my life?

As always, you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and you can find the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode299

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Hello, friends! I hope you have had a wonderful week. For today's episode, I answer the following awesome listener questions:

• I am thinking of going into clinical psychology, but as a sensitive person, I am afraid of emotionally burning out. What can I do to avoid this?
• I have lost someone every year since 2015. How can I get back to a normal life with so much loss?

As always, you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode298

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Hello, everyone! Thank you for your patience on this one. Had to take a couple extra days so that I didn't lose my mind with work. This episode features the following questions:

• After college, I don't know what to do with my life and find myself depressed. How can I move forward?
• My family expects me to be the peacekeeper and therapist. How can I set better boundaries?

As always, you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode297

This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by BetterHelp and MasterClass

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• I have had bipolar I for a long time, but started getting a new symptom of paranoid thoughts over the past few years. Why might this be happening?
• My workplace and coworkers are toxic, but I am a non-confrontational person. What can I do about it?

As always, you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode296

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Hello, friends! I hope that you are caring well for your hearts this week. It's wild out there. Here are the questions I cover in this week's episode:

• My history of sexual abuse makes dating complicated. How can I move forward?
• My husband cheated on me but doesn't want to do couples therapy. How can I stop resenting him?

As always, you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode295

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Hey, everyone. I hope you're taking great care of yourselves. In this episode, I start with a moment of vulnerability about my life lately. That is followed by these two great questions sent in by listeners like yourself:

• My wife has had anxiety for years but does not want to get help for it. What can I do?
• I have a perfect life, but I remain depressed about the world. How can I cope?

As always, you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode294

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Hey, friends! I hope you're having a great week. This is a very interesting episode with the following questions:

• I am attracted to my therapist and saw her on a non-traditional dating app. When I brought this up, she refused to talk about it. What should I do?
• How should cannabis use disorders be handled when there are also mental health issues?

As always, you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode293

This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by BetterHelp and MasterClass

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Hello, friends! This is a short and sweet episode where I answer the following question:

• I recently learned of my partner's previous threesome. I can't stop feeling disgust and anxiety from it, even though I know that's not fair. How can I deal with this?

As always, you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode292

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Hello, everyone! Pretty heavy episode this time. Nothing graphic, as usual, but I decided to tackle some tricky questions. Before hopping into the questions, I share a quick tip about managing the news cycle during this really intense time. Here are the questions covered:

• My kid's school had two people die by suicide this year. How can I talk to them about it and should we switch schools?
• I was abused as a child and have trouble remembering it without dissociating. What can I do?

As always, you can send me questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode291

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Hello, friends! I hope you are all doing well. In this episode, I start off with a quick update about my experience so far on Lexapro (escitalopram), an SSRI medication for anxiety. After that, I jump straight into the following super interesting questions:

• I have OCD with intrusive thoughts about harming my loved ones. What can I do about this?
• I ruminate about therapy constantly, having imaginary conversations in my head. Is that bad?

As always, you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode290

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This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by Acorn TV and Audible.

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