In this episode of The Hardcore Self Help Podcast, I sit down with the incredible psychotherapist and author, Terri Cole, to discuss high-functioning codependency, boundaries, and how we can break free from people-pleasing tendencies. Terri shares her own journey from working in the entertainment industry to becoming a therapist and how her personal struggles with boundaries led her to specialize in this area. We dive deep into the traits of high-functioning codependency, where it comes from, and actionable steps you can take to create healthier relationships and reclaim your inner peace.
Terri’s journey from talent agent to psychotherapist
Recognizing high-functioning codependency in yourself
How childhood and societal expectations shape codependency
The role of self-awareness and therapy in breaking codependency patterns
Practical tools for overcoming codependent tendencies
The importance of setting boundaries and learning to say no
How to conduct a resentment inventory and why it’s helpful
Addressing difficult family dynamics around social and political issues
How Terri’s book, Too Much, can help you break free from codependency
00:00 – Introduction to Terri Cole and her background
01:00 – How Terri transitioned from talent agent to psychotherapist
16:00 – Recognizing high-functioning codependency
25:00 – Childhood & societal influences on codependency
30:00 – The importance of self-awareness and therapy
39:00 – Practical tools for overcoming codependency
42:00 – Navigating difficult family dynamics
49:00 – Setting boundaries and learning to say no
52:00 – Conducting a resentment inventory
58:00 – How Too Much can help you break free
Too Much by Terri Cole: https://www.terricole.com
High-Functioning Codependency Toolkit: https://www.terricole.com/HFC
Mastermind program (Flourish): https://www.terricole.com/flourish
Terri’s membership community: https://www.terricole.com/TCM
The Terri Cole Show Podcast: https://www.terricole.com/podcast
Email: duffthepsych@gmail.com
Website: https://www.duffthepsych.com
Instagram: https://instagram.com/duffthepsych
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Episode 431: Pathological Demand Avoidance in Coaching & Persistent Depression
Welcome to another episode of the Hardcore Self Help Podcast with Dr. Robert Duff! In this Q&A episode, Dr. Duff tackles two insightful listener questions on very different but equally important mental health topics.
A listener working as an individual sports coach seeks advice on how to best support a talented but highly resistant student who displays signs of Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA). Dr. Duff dives into:
What PDA is and how it manifests in individuals, particularly in relation to autism, ADHD, and other neurodivergent conditions.
The importance of reframing PDA as a high drive for autonomy rather than defiance.
Practical coaching strategies to work around demand avoidance, including collaborative goal setting, offering choices, and making training sessions more engaging and playful.
The significance of open-ended questions and genuine curiosity in understanding the root of a student’s resistance.
A listener describes their struggle with long-term, low-grade depression despite attempts with medication and therapy. Dr. Duff provides insights into:
Understanding Persistent Depressive Disorder (formerly known as dysthymia) and how it differs from episodic major depression.
Behavioral activation as a treatment approach, including strategies for identifying and engaging in potentially enjoyable activities despite a lack of motivation or pleasure.
The five-minute rule to help overcome resistance to activities.
Medication considerations, including alternatives like Wellbutrin (bupropion) and the combination drug Auvelity, which may have fewer side effects.
Non-medication treatments such as Transcranial Magnetic Stimulation (TMS) and ketamine therapy.
The importance of evaluating life circumstances to identify external contributors to chronic depression, such as hidden identity struggles or unsatisfying relationships.
[00:00] Intro and updates on Dr. Duff’s upcoming bipolar book
[03:00] Question 1: Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA) in coaching
[12:00] Strategies for engaging students with PDA
[14:00] Question 2: Chronic low-grade depression and treatment options
[19:00] Behavioral activation and the five-minute rule
[23:00] Medication alternatives and non-pharmacological treatments
[27:00] Life circumstances and their role in persistent depression
[28:00] Outro and listener support requests
Dr. Duff’s website: http://duffthepsych.com
Email your questions: duffthepsych@gmail.com
Follow Dr. Duff on Instagram: https://instagram.com/duffthepsych
Dr. Duff’s book “Hardcore Self Help: F**k Depression”: https://www.amazon.com/Hardcore-Self-Help-Depression/dp/B01J4H5A40
Previous episodes on TMS and ketamine treatments: http://duffthepsych.com/podcast
More on ketamine treatments: https://duffthepsych.com/ect-and-ketamine/
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Episode 430: Integrative Approaches to Recovery with Dr. Malasri Chaudhery-Malgeri
In this episode of The Hardcore Self Help Podcast, I sit down with Dr. Malasri Chaudhery-Malgeri, also known as Dr. Mala, to discuss her integrative approach to addiction recovery, rehabilitation, and mental health treatment. Dr. Mala shares her personal journey that led her into the field, the importance of holistic and individualized treatment, and how she has worked to break down barriers in accessing quality care.
Dr. Mala’s personal journey into psychology and addiction recovery work
The challenges of pushing for integrative mental health care
How trauma informed her approach to treatment
The importance of cultural competence in mental health and recovery
Understanding addiction recovery as a non-linear process
The necessity of breaking isolation in the recovery journey
The evolving role of virtual therapy and accessibility in mental health care
How alternative and holistic approaches such as yoga, meditation, and adventure therapy are valuable in rehabilitation
The role of family and loved ones in supporting recovery
How to advocate for personalized treatment if current options aren’t working
Resources available through Recovery.com for both individuals and families
00:00 – Introduction to Dr. Mala and her background
02:00 – How Dr. Mala entered the field of psychology and recovery
06:00 – Why she emphasizes integrative approaches in treatment
10:00 – Challenges in advocating for a holistic recovery model
12:00 – Misconceptions about addiction and recovery
16:00 – The importance of connection and breaking isolation
21:00 – Alternative therapeutic approaches that work
27:00 – The role of family and community in recovery
33:00 – Steps to take if current treatment isn’t effective
38:00 – Recovery.com and available resources
44:00 – Final words of wisdom for those struggling or supporting a loved one
Recovery.com: https://www.recovery.com
Recovery.com Podcast: https://www.recovery.com/podcast
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/recoverydotcom
Email: duffthepsych@gmail.com
Website: https://www.duffthepsych.com
Instagram: https://instagram.com/duffthepsych
If you found this episode helpful, please consider sharing it with someone who might benefit. And as always, take care of yourself!