432: What is High-Functioning Codependency? Terri Cole

In this episode of The Hardcore Self Help Podcast, I sit down with the incredible psychotherapist and author, Terri Cole, to discuss high-functioning codependency, boundaries, and how we can break free from people-pleasing tendencies. Terri shares her own journey from working in the entertainment industry to becoming a therapist and how her personal struggles with boundaries led her to specialize in this area. We dive deep into the traits of high-functioning codependency, where it comes from, and actionable steps you can take to create healthier relationships and reclaim your inner peace.

What We Cover in This Episode:

• Terri’s journey from talent agent to psychotherapist

• Recognizing high-functioning codependency in yourself

• How childhood and societal expectations shape codependency

• The role of self-awareness and therapy in breaking codependency patterns

• Practical tools for overcoming codependent tendencies

• The importance of setting boundaries and learning to say no

• How to conduct a resentment inventory and why it’s helpful

• Addressing difficult family dynamics around social and political issues

• How Terri’s book, Too Much, can help you break free from codependency

Timestamps:

00:00 – Introduction to Terri Cole and her background
01:00 – How Terri transitioned from talent agent to psychotherapist
16:00 – Recognizing high-functioning codependency
25:00 – Childhood & societal influences on codependency
30:00 – The importance of self-awareness and therapy
39:00 – Practical tools for overcoming codependency
42:00 – Navigating difficult family dynamics
49:00 – Setting boundaries and learning to say no
52:00 – Conducting a resentment inventory
58:00 – How Too Much can help you break free

Resources Mentioned:

• Too Much by Terri Cole: https://www.terricole.com

• High-Functioning Codependency Toolkit: https://www.terricole.com/HFC

• Mastermind program (Flourish): https://www.terricole.com/flourish

• Terri’s membership community: https://www.terricole.com/TCM

• The Terri Cole Show Podcast: https://www.terricole.com/podcast

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