The Hardcore Self Help Podcast with Duff the Psych

This is a podcast dedicated to answering your questions about mental health, anxiety, depression, relationships, sex, and life WITHOUT psychobabble BS. I am Dr. Robert Duff, a psychologist from Southern California, but I'm also a regular dude who legitimately wants to help out. I wrote the best selling books Hardcore Self Help: F**k Depression and Hardcore Self Help: F**K Anxiety. Those are available at
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Aug 22, 2019

Hello, friends! This is an awesome Q&A episode where I take three great listener questions and try my best to offer some helpful advice. Here are the topics covered:

  • Do you NEED to recall trauma in order to move past it?
  • Why would my therapist want me to bring my mom into session?
  • How can I move past the ghost of my past affair?

As always, you can send me your questions or suggestions to and full show notes are available at

This episode was brought to you by MycoMeditations Psilocybin-Assisted Retreats and BetterHelp!

Aug 15, 2019
This is a special episode. I was approached by a company called MycoMeditations that wanted to sponsor the podcast. They actually were very persistent and approached me a few times about it because they were really interested in the opportunity to speak with you all. MycoMeditations is a company that hosts retreats in Jamaica that use the psilocybin mushroom, also known as the magic mushroom. It's an often misunderstood substance that research has shown to be an effective way to reduce the impact of treatment resistant mental illness such as depression and anxiety. 
Since this is a topic that is somewhat sensitive (psilocybin is not legal in the US), I wanted to do things a little differently. Rather than just running a short ad, I wanted to have the opportunity to dive deep and fully explore the issue. So this is a sponsored episode. MycoMeditations did pay for this interview spot, but I am approaching it just like all of the other interviews that I do on the show so that you can be appropriately informed and make your own decisions. 
My guest for this episode is Eric Osborne, who is the founder and head facilitator of MycoMeditations. He has a very interesting background in that he is a wild mushroom expert and mycologist. This enables him to approach things from a very unique angle, which you will hear in the episode. Rather than administering the mushroom in it's raw form, he uses a process to make measured capsules of it to have better control of the dosage. 
I really hope that you enjoy this episode. It was very interesting for me. Please have a look at the full show notes at and reach out to Eric if you have any questions after listening!
Check out MycoMeditations at their website to learn more!
Aug 8, 2019

Hello, friends! In this Q&A episode, I take three awesome questions that listeners sent in and try my best to give some helpful advice. These cover a range of topics including health anxiety, PTSD in literature, and coping with a sexless marriage.

As always you can send me your questions to and full show notes are available at

Aug 4, 2019

This episode is a super interesting interview with psychiatrist Dr. Anna Yusim. She is a practicing psychiatrist from a family of hyper-rational mathematicians. She was never spiritual or religious. However, about 10 years ago, she started to experience things that she could not explain and began to develop an interest in the intersection between spirituality and psychiatry. If you know me, this is not in line with my view of things, so I thought it would be super interesting to have this interview with someone who sees things from a different perspective. 

Full show notes are available at and please continue sending your questions and topic suggestions to

Jul 25, 2019

Hey, everyone!

This episode is missing some of the normal bells and whistles that you are used to. No intro music. No disclaimers or fancy editing. I am currently out of town and my remote desktop failed me, so I don't have access to my normal episode template.

In this episode, I take one really good listener question about whether it's strange to feel upset about their counselor dying and what they can do about comparing future counselors to their last one, since it was a good experience for them.

As always, you can send your questions and topic suggestions to and find the full show notes at


Jul 18, 2019

This is a fantastic interview with Dr. Laura Copley, a trauma specialist, who focuses on posttraumatic growth and resilience. We go through many important facts and misconceptions about trauma. We talk about the difference between resilience and posttraumatic growth. We even dive into a couple exercises that people currently contenting with trauma reactions can use to start living life on their terms.

If you have questions or topic suggestions, please send them over to me at!

Jul 11, 2019

Hello, friends!

This is a Q&A episode in which I tackle the following:

  • When is it time to move on from my boyfriend that just recently broke up with me so that I can "find myself"?
  • What advice do you have for someone that is pregnant with an eating disorder?
  • How long will it take for therapy to help with my borderline personality disorder?

As always, you can send me questions and topic suggestions to

Full show notes also available at


Jul 4, 2019

This is a really nice interview with psychiatrist Suvrat Bhargave. We talk about lessons that he has learned in his practice including how to let go of shame and why you don't need to hit rock bottom to have important moments of insight. He is very personable and cares about meeting people where they are at rather than speaking in jargon and working hard to seem like the expert. He challenges the stereotype that psychiatrists are unapproachable and only want to focus on medication management.

Full episode notes available at

Next week is another Q&A episode, so send your questions or topic suggestions to

Jun 27, 2019

Hey, all! On the last episode, I had my wife on to answer your relationship communications. We got SO many awesome questions that I wanted to tackle some more on the podcast today. This is a solo Q&A episode and I take questions directly from the private Hardcore Self Help Facebook group. Here are the questions I address:

  • What can I do about my family that doesn't understand my anxiety?
  • How can I tell the difference between reinforcing boundaries and being manipulative in my relationship?
  • I'm about to move and I'm freaking out. What can I do?

Full show notes are available at and if you'd like to send in a question, shoot me an email at

Jun 20, 2019

In this episode, I have my beautiful wife Joelle back on the podcast. We take a few minutes to update you on our crazy life and then discuss some listener questions that mainly focus on communication in relationships. Enjoy!

Next week will be another Q&A, so send me your questions to

For full show notes, visit

Jun 13, 2019

Hello, friends! It's very very hot over here this week, but I still decided to lock myself in my office without a fan and record this Q&A episode! There are three really great (and different) questions that listeners sent in, and I try my best to give some helpful advice. The questions are:

  • What can I do to make my family member understand my past alcoholism?
  • How can I plan and execute my days better when I have ADHD?
  • What can I do about my chronic depersonalization and dissociation?

As always, full show notes are available at and you can send me your questions to

Jun 6, 2019

This week, I have the amazing Quinn Gee of Magnolia Mental Health back on the show again. She is a "unicorn" in the mental health field. As a black, gay, female therapist, there are many people out there who really benefit from her perspective. She's also really good at her job. As such, she is BUSY. No, I mean BUSY. She puts my work ethic to shame. Unfortunately that also comes at the cost of her own well-being, which she is working on.

In this episode we talk about the realities of being a therapist. We also brainstorm ways that she can take better care of herself for the sake of her own health and for the sake of her clients. It's a really interesting insider peek at those of us that work in helping professions and I think you will enjoy it.

Next week will be another Q&A episode, so send me your questions and topic suggestions to

May 30, 2019

Hello, friends! In this episode, I answer some awesome listener questions about some very interesting topics including:

  • How can I fix my stress-related erectile dysfunction?
  • Is my desire to show off my body online bad?
  • How can I better manage my strong emotional reactions?

For full show notes, be sure to stop by and check back next week for an interview episode!

Please send any questions or topic suggestions to

May 23, 2019

This episode is an awesome conversation that I had with educational neuroscientist Dr. Jaren Cooney Horvath. We talk about common misconceptions about the brain, how it actually works, and what that means for learning information or trying to teach other people information in effective ways. He has a new book called "Stop Talking, Start Influencing: 12 Insight from Brain Science to Make Your Message Stick", which I highly suggest checking out!

Next episode will be a Q&A, so please continue sending me your questions and potential topics to

May 16, 2019

Hello, friends!

We have a nice question and answer session for you today. Please be forewarned that one of the questions mentions the topic of suicide, so if you are particularly vulnerable to that topic, feel free to skip question #2.

Here are the questions covered:

  • How can I go back to work after having panic attacks due to a medical procedure?
  • How can I improve my self-concept?
  • What can I do about my therapist moving offices?

Next week should be another awesome interview. In the meantime, please keep sending me your questions and topics to

May 9, 2019

Hello, friends!

This episode features an interview with the author Gary John Bishop. He wrote the best seller Unfu*k Yourself and juuuust released a new book called Stop Doing That Shit. 

We had a great conversation about what people can do to start moving forward with their lives and we even dive into the personal story behind why Gary started making this type of content.

Please stop by and check out Gary's stuff at

May 2, 2019

This episode is a straightforward question and answer episode. Not too much preamble in this episode, just straight to the nitty gritty. As always, if you'd like to learn more about me and what I do, check out

And if you have questions or topics for a future episode, send them over to

Apr 25, 2019

This is a super interesting interview with Jonah, who was kind enough to get very person in discussing his experiences with Electroconvulsive Therapy (ECT). ECT is a safe, but sensationalized, treatment for depression that does not respond to typical treatments such as medication and therapy. 

Jonah is also a transgender man who happens to be in a committed polyamorous relationship with two other men. All of these aspects are intertwined in Jonah's story. 

Next week will be another Q&A, so be sure to send me your questions to

Full show-notes available at

Apr 18, 2019

This is a special Q&A episode in which I pull questions directly from the private Hardcore Self Help Facebook group. If you aren't yet a member, request access at

I took four questions from the group that cover a wide variety of topics. I think you'll really enjoy this one.

As always, you can send me your questions and topics to See you next week for an awesome interview episode!

Apr 11, 2019

I think that a lot of you need to hear this episode. It's simply me talking with you a bit about the topic of letting go, especially of things that you don't have control over, and then guiding you through a forest visualization to help you relax. No ads or interruptions in this episode. Just sit back, pop in some headphones, and bliss out.

Music in this episode is: 

Rushing Stream.mp3 by acclivity

20071104.forest.04.binaural.mp3 by doboride

Mar 28, 2019
Today's episode is an interview that I did with Dr. Sherrie Campbell. Her specialty is helping people recognize toxic family members and work to productively cut ties with them and thrive in the aftermath. We get into some really interesting content including how to recognize when a family member is toxic and Dr. Campbell's deeply personal experiences that have driven her work.
I wanted to let you guys know that in addition to the audio, we also have full blog posts and show notes for each episode on my website. For instance, the episode last week about productivity tips is a full-fledged blog post in itself that you could easily read through if you forget some of the tips. This is something that I've been happy to hire an assistant to help out with. So make sure you stop by to see the full notes for this episode.
As always, send me your questions and topics to and don't forget to review for a chance to win free access to my online course!
Mar 21, 2019

We are doing a bit of a deep dive episode this week. I wanted to share with you my 10-11 best tips for staying productive even when you don't feel like it or may struggle with disorganization. We talk about many different personal tips that work well for me as well as universally good ideas when it comes to productivity and getting stuff done.

Next week's episode will be an interview, but be sure to send your questions and topics for future episodes to

Mar 14, 2019

This episode is a wide-ranging conversation with Abhishek Chandra, a co-founder and CTO of Spring Health, which is a comprehensive mental health benefit for employers that goes beyond the traditional employee assistance program. We talk about the role of tech in mental health including machine learning, genetic testing, and online therapy. It's really interesting stuff!

Next week should be a normal Q&A, so send your questions and topics to

Mar 7, 2019

This week's episode is a question and answer session. I cover three awesome questions that cover a variety of important topics. As always I'm impressed by the bravery in posing these difficult questions and I hope that I do a good job of being sensitive AND realistic in my responses. Here are the questions:

  • How can I manage my anxiety after I had my first panic attack?
  • How can I deal with my abuser, who is also my father, when he wants to stay at my home?
  • Should I continue pushing or call of my problematic engagement?

As always, I would greatly appreciate a share or review of the podcast and if you have questions or topics that you'd like me to cover on the show, please send them to

Feb 28, 2019

Hello! In this episode, I interview a friend of mine, Dan Fields, from the Save it for the Show podcast. I thought this would be an interesting episode because it's essentially just me talking to a friend of mine about life on the internet, creating, modern mental health, families, working from home, and all sorts of other topics. I hope you enjoy!

Next week will be a question and answer episode, so be sure to send me your questions to

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