In this episdoe, I sit down with Jennie Ketcham-Crooks, a licensed therapist, anxiety specialist, and author of the upcoming book "Look Up: The 30-Day Path to Digital Minimalism and Real Life Maximalism."
Jennie shares her compelling journey from an adult film performer to a transformative therapist, opening up about the pivotal moments that shaped her path. They delve deep into the challenges of reducing digital overconsumption, discussing practical, evidence-based strategies from Jennie's book that can help you realign your life with your values and build meaningful real-world connections.
Discover how to take on a 30-day challenge designed to shift your smartphone use from unintentional to intentional, making every minute count towards your personal fulfillment. Robert and Jennie also explore the importance of maintaining human connections in the digital age, the potential impacts of overusing smartphones, and how to cultivate a balanced, intentional relationship with technology. Don't miss Jennie's unique insights on parenting, mental health, and the value of vulnerability and intimacy. Tune in for an episode packed with valuable advice, heartfelt stories, and actionable tips to help you navigate the digital world mindfully. Whether you're looking to cut down on screen time, connect more deeply with those around you, or simply hear an inspiring story of transformation, this interview has something for you.
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Hello friends!
In today’s episode, we explore the deep and complex emotions involved in expressing love within romantic relationships and the challenging path to recovery following a severe traumatic brain injury. We kick off with a question about the appropriate timing for saying “I love you” in a romantic context, especially considering cultural differences and personal challenges such as being on the autism spectrum. Our listener’s journey brings forward the importance of understanding personal feelings and the unique dynamics of each relationship.
We then shift to an inspiring yet poignant story of miraculous recovery and the persistence of hope. Another listener shares the journey of their mother’s recovery from a severe traumatic brain injury resulting from a car accident. While her recovery has been astonishing, they grapple with the lingering issue of facial numbness. This story highlights the incredible resilience of the human body and spirit, the complexities of the brain's healing process, and the necessity of advocating for comprehensive care that addresses all facets of recovery.
As we navigate these profound topics, remember, whether it's about expressing love or facing the aftermath of a traumatic event, the journey is deeply personal and filled with opportunities for growth and understanding.
As always, you can send your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the full show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode393
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Hello friends!
In today’s thoughtful episode, we tackle two profound listener questions that may resonate with many of you:
Contemplating Harm OCD and Supporting a Friend: A listener shares their concerns about how to best support a friend struggling with harm OCD. They've noticed their attempts to help by offering reassurance or checking things for their friend might actually be counterproductive. We dive into the nature of OCD, the impact of well-meaning actions, and how to genuinely support someone without reinforcing their compulsive behavior.
Finding Balance Amidst Life's Transitions: Another listener talks about the challenges of transitioning to a full-time job and living with their partner after college. They've found themselves clinging to rigid routines that have begun to control their life, seeking advice on how to break free from these patterns without losing their sense of stability. We explore the importance of flexibility, communication, and self-awareness in navigating these significant life changes.
As always, you can send me questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the full show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode392
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Hello, friends! In today’s episode of the podcast, we dive deep into two incredibly relatable listener questions that touch on emotional and psychological challenges many of us might face.
Our first discussion revolves around the complex emotions of worrying about one’s therapist. One listener shares their concern about being a burden by repeatedly discussing the same issues, particularly body dysmorphia, fearing it might negatively impact their therapist. We unravel this common fear, emphasizing the nature of therapy and the professional capacity of therapists to manage their own feelings and support their clients effectively.
In our second exploration, we address the heart-wrenching situation of a listener navigating the aftermath of an abusive marriage, particularly the impact on their children. This listener’s struggle with their ex-partner’s manipulation and its effect on their relationship with their children brings to light the challenges of co-parenting and protecting one’s mental and emotional well-being during such turbulent times. We offer insights into seeking support, understanding the dynamics at play, and strategies for maintaining a healthy relationship with one’s children amidst external pressures.
As always, your thoughts and questions are invaluable to us. Reach out via duffthepsych@gmail.com or explore more resources at http://duffthepsych.com/episode389. Your journey is important, and we’re here to support you every step of the way.
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Hello friends!
In today’s episode, we dive into two listener queries that shine a light on the complexities of emotional experiences and relationships. First, we explore the journey of someone grappling with childhood emotional neglect, unpacking the long-term effects of growing up in an environment where emotions were disregarded and undervalued. Our listener shares their struggle with feeling emotionally disconnected and their quest for a path toward healing and emotional awareness.
Then, we shift gears to discuss the challenges faced by a couple when one partner feels uncomfortable with being photographed. This scenario opens up a dialogue on insecurities, the significance of memories captured in photos, and the importance of understanding and respecting each other’s boundaries.
As always, you can send me your questions at duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the full show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode388.
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Hello friends!
In today’s episode, we delve into two deeply personal and impactful listener questions, uncovering layers of self-discovery, acceptance, and the ongoing journey towards healing and love:
Embarking on a Journey of Self-Discovery and Love: A 32-year-old male shares his transformative journey from battling addiction and isolation to embracing therapy, wellness, and the realization of his deep desire for love and intimacy. Facing fears of rejection, exploring his sexuality, and stepping into the dating scene, he seeks guidance and affirmation that it's never too late to find love and form meaningful connections.
Navigating Mental Health Challenges in the UK: A listener from the UK expresses frustration with the mental health support system, revealing a recent diagnosis of BPD after years of being treated for depression. Despite facing suicidality and feeling abandoned by the healthcare system, they search for hope and strategies to cope with the intense highs and lows of BPD, highlighting the urgent need for compassionate and effective mental health care.
As always, you can send me questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the full show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode386.
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Hello, friends!
In today’s episode, we tackle two profound listener questions that may resonate with many of you:
Navigating Romantic Relationships and Self-Esteem: A listener seeks advice on managing the anxiety and self-doubt that accompany new romantic relationships. We discuss the concept of "correct rejections" and explore strategies for nurturing a healthy sense of self-esteem, such as focusing on personal growth and savoring moments of joy.
Overcoming Trauma and Self-Doubt: Another listener shares their struggle with self-doubt stemming from a traumatic experience. We emphasize the importance of self-compassion and challenge the stigma associated with seeking help. We discuss the benefits of therapy and self-help resources, as well as the empowering nature of setting challenges and connecting with others.
As always, you can send me questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the full show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode385
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In today's in-depth episode, we embark on a comprehensive exploration of depression, a condition that's far more complex than the occasional sadness or the transient moods we all experience. Our journey aims to shed light on the multifaceted nature of depression, affecting individuals across the globe in myriad ways. We delve into the clinical aspects, the personal stories, and the common misconceptions surrounding this pervasive mental health condition.
We start by breaking down the very concept of depression, moving beyond the simple definition to uncover its roots and how it impacts the human experience. Through the lens of the DSM-5, we explore the criteria for diagnosing Major Depressive Disorder, highlighting the diversity of symptoms and the profound effect they have on individuals' lives.
Our discussion takes a personal turn as we examine the experiences of James and Ellie, two hypothetical cases that illustrate the varied manifestations of depression. James, with his outward success masking an internal struggle, and Ellie, facing overt challenges in her transition to college life, offer insights into the silent battles many face.
Addressing common misconceptions, we challenge the stigmas associated with depression, emphasizing its complexity and the fact that it's not a sign of weakness, nor is it something one can simply "snap out of." We also touch upon the idea that depression can affect anyone, regardless of how "good" their life may seem.
As we move towards solutions, we discuss the treatability of depression, underscoring the effectiveness of medication, therapy, and lifestyle changes. We emphasize that for those facing this condition, there is hope, and a multitude of resources available to support their journey towards recovery.
In closing, we reaffirm the importance of understanding, empathy, and support in the battle against depression. We encourage our listeners to reach out for help, to engage in conversations about mental health, and to seek the resources necessary to navigate this challenging yet treatable condition.
As always, you can send me questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the full show notes for this episode, including links to resources and further reading, at http://duffthepsych.com/episode384.
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Hello friends!
In today's episode, we delve into two compelling listener questions that I'm sure many of you will find relatable and insightful.
Navigating Therapy with a Talkative Therapist: One listener shares their experience with a therapist who often overshadows the session with personal stories, leaving them feeling unheard. This is particularly challenging as the listener is dealing with a controlling spouse with dementia. We explore the importance of feeling heard in therapy, the role of therapist's self-disclosure, and the value of assertiveness in therapeutic relationships. We also discuss the concept of transference and how it can impact therapy sessions.
Considering Alternatives to Adderall: Another listener seeks advice about a close relative looking to taper off Adderall, which they've been dependent on for managing ADHD. We discuss the complexities of ADHD diagnosis and treatment, delve into the pharmacology of Adderall, and explore its side effects and potential for psychological dependence. Additionally, we examine Provigil (Modafinil) as an alternative, highlighting the differences in abuse potential and side effects. We also touch upon other medication options like Strattera, Intunive, Clonidine, and Wellbutrin, and emphasize the role of therapy and coaching in managing ADHD.
As always, your questions and stories bring a depth of understanding to our discussions. If there's something on your mind, don't hesitate to reach out at duffthepsych@gmail.com. For full show notes, please visit http://duffthepsych.com/episode375.
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Hello, friends!
In this episode, I will be wrapping the year up by reflecting back on 2023 and my word for the year, which was "Identity." I talk about what I learned and explored this year and then I tell you what I have chosen as my word for 2024. It should be a fun one!
Take care of yourselves, and I will see you in 2024!
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Hello friends!
In today’s insightful episode, we delve into two very relatable and poignant listener questions that highlight the complexities of personal relationships and social anxiety.
Navigating Emotional Maturity in Relationships: Our first discussion revolves around a listener's five-year relationship with her boyfriend. She's passionate about personal growth but finds her boyfriend, though professionally driven, lacks emotional maturity in their relationship. We explore the challenges of addressing emotional immaturity in a partner, the balance between accepting inherent personality traits and fostering growth, and the importance of direct communication and understanding in nurturing a healthy, supportive relationship.
Coping with Social Anxiety and Jealousy in Adolescence: The second question comes from a 13-year-old listener in the UK, grappling with feelings of jealousy and social anxiety. They talk about the challenges of making friends, the impact of bullying, and the complexities of navigating friendships with older peers. We discuss strategies to manage social anxiety, the significance of self-reflection, and the importance of recognizing one’s value in friendships.
As always, you can send me questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the full show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode378.
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Hello, friends! Hope you're all doing splendidly.
Today's episode dives into the nuances of financial anxieties and the challenges of managing impulsive shopping habits. Two heartfelt listener questions guide our discussion, shedding light on personal struggles and the broader societal context:
Tackling Shopping Habits & ADHD:
A loyal follower from Vermont expresses concerns over her shopping habits, leading to financial difficulties, accentuated by her newly diagnosed adult ADHD.
Strategies for Financial Well-being:
Exploring actionable steps to regain financial control and establish a balanced relationship with money.
Remember, seeking balance and understanding in our relationship with money is a journey, not a destination. Taking proactive steps, seeking support, and focusing on self-awareness can pave the way for healthier financial habits.
As always, feel free to send your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com. You can find the detailed show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode372
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Hello, friends! I hope everyone is well.
In today’s enlightening episode, we delve into two insightful listener questions that touch on ADHD medications and the world of BDSM:
The Nuances of ADHD Medications
Journeying through BDSM Interests from Childhood to Adulthood
As always, you can send me questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode370
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Hello, listeners! I hope you're taking care of yourselves and finding moments of joy. In today's episode, we deep dive into a comprehensive question from one of our loyal listeners.
This listener shares their journey, from discovering our podcast through a Men's Health article on mental health to now being engrossed in Dr. Becca Levy's book "Breaking the Aging Code." The core of their question revolves around the challenges the aging population faces, particularly concerning mental health. They highlight the troubling fact that the majority of mental health providers do not accept older patients on Medicare and express concerns about receiving appropriate care as they age, especially without having a family advocate by their side.
Our discussion touches upon the age bias prevalent in the medical community and the importance of proactive health measures, both mentally and physically. We delve into the effects of cardiovascular health on cognitive abilities, the significance of continuous learning and social interactions, and the role of stress in aging. Furthermore, we emphasize the importance of advocating for oneself, understanding the intricacies of Medicare, and the potential benefits of seeking younger medical practitioners who may have a fresh perspective on care.
Thank you for consistently sharing your thoughtful questions. They add depth and perspective to our conversations. If you have questions or topics you'd like us to address, please reach out to duffthepsych@gmail.com. Don't forget to check out the detailed show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode367.
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Hello, everyone! I appreciate your attention and hope you are doing well.
In our first segment, we dive into a topic that's close to my heart - the evolution of my own marriage into a non-monogamous, polyamorous relationship. I unravel the intricacies of non-monogamy, elucidate the various terminology surrounding it, and give an insight into my personal journey of 'opening up'. If you're curious about polyamory, its various facets, or simply want to understand what it means to navigate such a relationship, this segment offers a comprehensive overview.
The next question touches upon a sensitive yet universal theme: grief. A listener reaches out, concerned about her partner's impending loss of his beloved cat, Jimmy, who has been a steadfast companion through some of life's most challenging moments. We discuss the profound impact pets have on our lives, the unique grief associated with their loss, and strategies to navigate this emotional terrain, especially when mental health challenges are at play.
As always, your stories and questions provide invaluable insights, making every episode a journey of discovery. If there's a topic or question you'd like addressed in future episodes, please send them to duffthepsych@gmail.com. For a detailed breakdown of today's episode, check out the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode366.
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Hello, friends! I hope you're treating yourselves well. In this episode, I dive into two compelling listener questions that touch on complex emotional states and mental health diagnoses.
First up, we discuss what it means to be diagnosed with PTSD with "schizophrenic episodes." If you've ever been confused by mental health jargon or diagnoses, this segment will provide some clarity. We'll break down the DSM criteria for PTSD and explore the possibility of psychotic symptoms within the framework of trauma.
Our second question is a deeply emotional one. It's about the sudden disappearance of body dysmorphia and low self-esteem following the death of an abusive parent. Can such a significant life event dramatically shift one's self-image? We'll delve into the complexities of grief, closure, and self-perception in this intriguing discussion.
As always, your engagement keeps this show going. Send your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com for a chance to be featured in future episodes. For full show notes, head to duffthepsych.com/episode364.
Hello, all!
In this episode, I answer the following awesome listener questions.
Please give me feedback on the show at this link: https://forms.gle/TGx4puKucMJKjSNz7
As always, you can send me questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode361
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Hello, friends! I hope you're all doing great.
In today's episode, we dive into the following awesome listener questions:
Our first question comes from a listener who's considering whether to continue their journey with antidepressant medication. They've been told by their doctor that most people stay on these medications for life, but they're not sure if this path is right for them. They're grappling with how to gauge if the medication is still necessary or if their mental health has improved enough to consider discontinuing it. We will delve into this complex issue, discussing ways to assess the effectiveness of antidepressants, the potential risks and benefits of long-term use, and how to make informed decisions about your mental health treatment plan.
Our second question is from a long-time listener who has been struggling with feeling comfortable during intimate moments with their partner. Despite feeling sexy when alone, the listener finds it challenging to relax and enjoy intimacy with their partner, possibly due to a decade-long journey with infertility and miscarriages. Now surgically sterile, the listener is looking for ways to reclaim their sex life and feel comfortable in their own skin during intimate encounters. We will explore ways to navigate this emotional terrain, discussing how past experiences can impact present relationships and strategies for fostering healthy and satisfying intimacy.
As always, feel free to send your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com. You can find the show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode357.
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Hello, friends! This is a short and sweet episode. No ads today, but I have two awesome listener questions.
First, I tackle a question from someone that feels the end of their relationship is inevitable due to moving to another state and they are already struggling with feelings of grief.
The second question is from someone with a background of trauma that wants advice about how to deal with their friend's angry outbursts.
I hope you enjoy!
As always, you can send me questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode351
Hello, friends! I hope that you are taking good care of yourselves. We are back to the Q&A format this week with the following amazing listener questions:
As always, you can send me questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com
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Hello, all! In this episode, I answer the following questions from awesome listeners like yourself:
Don't forget to take a look at my new book of questions including the following one that I include in the episode: What things were and were not talked about in your family of origin?
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