In this laid-back check-in episode of the Hardcore Self Help Podcast, I take you through a series of updates and random musings. I discuss the current state of the podcast, why I decided to fire my ad agency, and the recent revival of interviews. I also share some personal projects, from working on my bipolar disorder book to collaborating with my kids on a creative game inspired by Minecraft. Throughout, I reflect on AI innovations, the challenges of balancing podcasting with life, and ways I've been keeping active, like my new rucking routine. This episode is perfect for catching up on everything happening in my world, from professional changes to hobbies and everything in between.
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Chapters:
00:00 Introduction
01:00 Podcast Updates
02:00 Fired Ad Agency
05:00 Interview Segment Revival
08:00 Changes in Podcast Style
09:00 Decline in Podcast Numbers and Stepping Away from Ads
11:00 Writing Update - Bipolar Book
13:00 AI Adventures - ChatGPT Voice Mode Demo
18:00 AI Applications - Notebook LM
21:00 Personal Favorites - POV Cooking Channels
22:00 Nostalgia Gaming - Pokémon Insurgence
23:00 Podcast Recommendation - Tim Ferriss Interview with Elizabeth Gilbert
24:00 Work and Mentorship Updates
26:00 Fitness Journey - Rucking
27:00 Creative Projects with Kids
28:00 Reflections on Current Events and Mental Health
29:00 Wrap-up
In today’s episode, I had the absolute honor of sitting down with Dr. David Burns, a true legend in the field of mental health. Dr. Burns is not only a pioneer of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), but he’s also the best-selling author of Feeling Good and Feeling Great, which have collectively sold millions of copies worldwide. Spending so much time with him was a real treat, as he shared his incredible insights into mental health, his innovative T.E.A.M. Therapy method, and his groundbreaking Feeling Great App.
We talked about how his methods are helping people achieve rapid and lasting recovery from depression, anxiety, and other difficult emotions, sometimes in just one session. Dr. Burns also gave us a behind-the-scenes look at how his AI-driven app is transforming mental health treatment, making it accessible and effective for people everywhere.
This conversation was truly fascinating, and I’m sure you’ll find a ton of value in it. Whether you’re familiar with Dr. Burns’ work or hearing about him for the first time, you’ll come away with practical advice and a deeper understanding of how to break free from the emotional patterns holding you back.
Links:
https://www.youtube.com/@UCEgz2rq7N1xCHMCcjdyU5zg
https://feelinggood.com/books/
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Breaking Boundaries: Dr. Paul Rivera on Redefining Success and Masculinity
In this episode, Dr. Paul Rivera, a first-generation Latino American, shares his inspiring journey navigating cultural expectations and his pursuit of a fulfilling life. From his early challenges growing up in a Latino neighborhood in Los Angeles to his prestigious roles as a professor and diplomat, Dr. Rivera discusses the importance of discovering one's unique superpower, embracing vulnerability as a strength, and redefining traditional notions of masculinity.
Together with his wife, Dr. Rivera co-founded BE ACT Change, an organization focused on aligning individuals and organizations with their purpose. He also discusses their book, 'Creating Your Limitless Life,' which provides insights into achieving authentic success beyond material trappings. Tune in for valuable lessons on mental health, family dynamics, and sustainable change.
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00:00 Introduction: Dreams and Expectations
00:25 Meet Dr. Paul Rivera: A Journey of Defying Expectations
01:28 Navigating Cultural Expectations and Personal Aspirations
02:22 Interview with Dr. Paul Rivera: Early Life and Influences
03:12 Growing Up Latino in Los Angeles
06:33 Balancing Work, Culture, and Personal Identity
18:30 Family Dynamics and Personal Growth
23:56 Challenging Machismo and Embracing Vulnerability
29:50 The Power of Vulnerability
30:38 Creating Safe Spaces at Home
32:11 Community Outreach and Education
33:47 Recognizing and Nurturing Potential
35:07 Discovering Your Superpower
37:03 Empowering Women in Leadership
39:04 Building Trust and Overcoming Barriers
40:21 The Journey to Self-Discovery
42:36 From Diplomacy to Entrepreneurship
43:32 The Mission of BeActChange
51:21 Advice for Feeling Stuck
56:30 Final Thoughts and Resources
Managing ADHD and Long COVID: Strategies for Cognitive Challenges In this episode of the Hardcore Self Help Podcast, Dr. Robert Duff addresses a listener's question about the impact of COVID-19 on ADHD symptoms. The listener shares their struggles with ADHD and how contracting long COVID has exacerbated their cognitive difficulties, impacting their academic performance and daily life. Dr. Duff delves into the comorbidity of ADHD with other mental health issues, discusses research on post-COVID syndrome, and offers practical advice for seeking accommodations and support. He emphasizes the importance of self-compassion and provides steps for managing ADHD symptoms effectively. Tune in for compassionate guidance and actionable strategies to navigate ADHD in the context of long COVID.
00:00 Introduction: ADHD and COVID-19 Impact
00:33 Listener's Question: Struggles with ADHD and Long COVID
02:14 Host's Response: Acknowledging the Struggles
03:04 Understanding ADHD and Comorbidities
04:39 COVID-19's Cognitive Impact
08:16 Executive Functioning Explained
10:20 Practical Advice and Encouragement
13:21 Seeking Help and Accommodations
17:30 Final Thoughts and Encouragement
Revolutionizing Therapy: Colleen Marshall on Two Chairs' Matching Process
In this episode of the Hardcore Self Help Podcast, Dr. Robert Duff interviews Colleen Marshall, Chief Clinical Officer at Two Chairs, a company dedicated to improving the therapy experience through innovative matching processes and measurement-based care. They discuss the current challenges in finding a suitable therapist, the importance of therapeutic alliance, and how Two Chairs' approach significantly improves client retention rates. Colleen also shares insights into her background, the systematic changes needed in therapy cultures, and the importance of culturally responsive training. Listeners will gain a better understanding of how Two Chairs is transforming mental health care by ensuring clients find the right therapist for their specific needs and continually measure treatment progress.
00:00 The Broken Process of Finding a Therapist
01:04 Introducing Two Chairs: Revolutionizing Therapy Matching
01:52 Meet Colleen Marshall: Chief Clinical Officer at Two Chairs
02:44 Colleen's Journey in Mental Health and Innovation
06:22 The Importance of Therapeutic Alliance and Matching
10:17 How Two Chairs Ensures Effective Therapy
16:53 Challenges and Successes in Implementing Measurement-Based Care
28:56 Balancing Wellness and Specialty Training
29:23 Efficient Care and Graduation Goals
31:03 Insurance and Access to Therapy
32:04 Therapist's Role in Client Progress
33:52 Matching Clients with the Right Therapist
36:07 Navigating Therapy Models and Approaches
47:13 Two Chairs: Availability and Process
51:11 Future of Therapy and Cultural Responsiveness
53:36 Conclusion and Final Thoughts
In this episode of the Hardcore Self Help Podcast, I address two intense and relatable listener questions.
The first question comes from a listener who feels abandoned by their spouse after a traumatic car accident left them with PTSD and potential brain injury. I provide insights on the possible brain injuries they might have sustained, while also discussing the complexities of their strained relationship and offering practical advice for moving forward.
In the second question, a listener struggles with constant phone checking and tech addiction. I offer actionable tips for managing phone usage, including identifying and challenging assumptions, creating a conscious phone use plan, and finding accountability.
This episode aims to provide support, clarity, and practical guidance for listeners dealing with trauma, relationship challenges, and tech overdependence.
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00:00 Introduction and Episode Overview
01:16 Listener's Question: Dealing with Trauma and Relationship Issues
02:33 Understanding Brain Injuries from Car Accidents
08:05 Addressing Relationship Concerns and Seeking Separation
08:11 Sponsor Break: NoCD
15:14 Listener's Question: Overcoming Phone Addiction
17:07 Tips for Reducing Phone Usage
25:17 Conclusion and Final Thoughts
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Breaking Cycles: How Attachment Shapes Our Lives with Dr. Judy Ho
In this episode of the Hardcore Self Help Podcast, host Dr. Duff interviews neuropsychologist Dr. Judy Ho, a tenured professor at Pepperdine University and author of 'The New Rules of Attachment.' They discuss why people often find themselves stuck in repetitive cycles despite different strategies and self-care routines. Dr. Ho explains the significance of revisiting one's past to break patterns, diving deep into attachment theory. They explore how early attachments form who we are, why it's essential to recognize childhood traumas, and the role of self-talk in attachment styles. Dr. Ho also shares her personal parenting insights and the importance of forming a secure attachment with oneself. Additionally, they delve into actionable exercises from Dr. Ho's book that help uncover unmet needs of our inner child and promote lasting change. Tune in for an in-depth conversation about the transformative power of understanding and healing our attachments.
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https://www.amazon.com/New-Rules-Attachment-Relationships-Reparent/dp/1538741423
https://www.instagram.com/drjudyho
00:00 Introduction: Breaking the Cycle
00:40 Meet Dr. Judy Ho
01:14 The Importance of Early Attachments
02:46 Personal Stories and Apologies
05:47 Journey into Psychology
18:10 Understanding Attachment Styles
30:11 Understanding Attachment Styles and Self-Talk
31:27 The Challenge of Changing Self-Talk
32:26 The Importance of Patience in Forming New Habits
33:14 Recognizing Overthinking and OCD
35:07 The Mind-Body Connection in Attachment
37:25 Inner Child Work and Self-Attachment
40:22 Practical Steps for Inner Child Healing
44:45 A Real-Life Transformation Story
53:22 Balancing Career and Personal Life
57:04 Parenting and Attachment
01:00:08 Looking Ahead: Future Plans and Reflections
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In this episode, Dr. Duff shares personal experiences and discusses the concept of being afraid of breathing. He highlights how anxiety and overthinking can lead to the sensation of not breathing properly. Dr. Duff explains how exposure therapy can be applied using breathing exercises to help alleviate these fears. He provides detailed instructions on different challenging breathing exercises like alternate nostril breathing, resonance breathing, and techniques inspired by the Wim Hof method and the Cradle series. The episode aims to help listeners gain comfort with discomfort and regain confidence in their breathing.
00:00 Introduction: Are You Afraid of Breathing?
00:02 A Personal Story of Breathing Anxiety
00:57 The Cycle of Anxiety and Breathing
01:50 Common Experiences and Avoidance
03:37 Using Breathing Exercises for Exposure
04:12 Understanding Exposure Therapy
07:38 Challenging Breathing Exercises
07:59 Alternate Nostril Breathing
10:40 Resonance Breathing
13:38 The Heaven and Earth Purification Wheel
15:16 Practicing in a Safe Space
16:22 Conclusion and Call to Action
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In episode 408 of the Hardcore Self Help Podcast, I'm joined by grief educator and author Christina Rasmussen.
We delve deep into the concept of invisible loss, a unique form of grief that stems from unacknowledged experiences. Christina opens up about her personal grief journey, introduces the Life Reentry Process, and shares insights from her book, 'Invisible Loss.' We also explore how early childhood experiences shape adult decision-making, the transformative power of authenticity, and Christina’s venture into using art for healing. Christina discusses her creation of a digital library of invisible losses and reflects on the significance of Andrew Wyeth's painting 'Christina's World.' Join us for actionable tips and profound reflections on navigating and reclaiming life after hidden struggles.
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Books - https://www.amazon.com/stores/Christina-Rasmussen/author/B0057K44UU
https://www.invisiblelosses.com/
https://springshow.academyart.edu/schools/fine-art/students/christina-rasmussen/
Chapters:
00:00 Introduction to Invisible Loss
00:45 Meet Christina Rasmussen
01:17 Christina's Personal Journey with Grief
03:30 Early Life and Education
08:13 Navigating Life After Loss
11:08 The Birth of Life Reentry Process
32:12 Invisible Loss Defined
43:39 Starting the Program and Writing Invisible Loss
44:01 Challenges of Writing About Invisible Loss
44:24 The Concept of Invisible Loss
46:48 Men and Invisible Loss
47:59 The Importance of Self-Expression
49:01 The Role of Therapy and Support Groups
52:38 Time Dilation and Seeking Help
53:32 Ambitious Work and Personal Transformation
56:33 Balancing Art and Professional Life
01:03:00 The Journey of Writing and Sharing Vulnerable Moments
01:13:34 The Impact of Panic Attacks and Authenticity
01:19:46 Conclusion and Final Thoughts
Navigating Intense Anxiety and Career Changes
Hello, friends! In today’s episode, we tackle two profound listener questions that may resonate with many of you:
Managing Severe Anxiety: A listener is struggling with intense daily anxiety and dissociation, impacting their ability to function in daily tasks like going to work or shopping. We discuss immediate tips, potential medical checks, and therapy approaches to manage anxiety effectively.
Considering a Career Shift: Another listener is contemplating a career change from music education to educational psychology. They seek advice on the feasibility, job prospects, and resources to pursue this new career path.
As always, you can send me questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the full show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode407
00:00 Introduction to Anxiety
00:17 Episode Overview and Listener Questions
00:56 Engaging with the Community
01:45 Addressing Severe Anxiety
05:15 Exploring Medical and Therapeutic Options
11:24 Understanding Anxiety and Fear
20:43 Career Change Considerations
28:10 Conclusion and Farewell
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In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Patrick McGrath, Chief Clinical Officer at NOCD and a leading expert in OCD treatment. We dive deep into understanding OCD, debunking common misconceptions, and exploring the most effective treatment approaches. Dr. McGrath shares practical advice for managing OCD and introduces an amazing new tool that’s helping people across the country manage OCD from the comfort of their own homes. Whether you're personally affected by OCD, know someone who is, or just want to learn more about mental health, this episode is packed with valuable insights and actionable tips.
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Hello, friends!
In today’s episode, we delve into the transformative potential of ketamine therapy for mental health with Dr. Chantalle Thomas, a leading expert in ketamine-assisted psychotherapy.
Dr. Thomas is a trainer in Fluence’s Advanced Certificate in Ketamine-Assisted Psychotherapy as well as Executive Clinical Director at Windrose Recovery.
Dr. Thomas discusses the complexities of ketamine as a treatment, its various administration routes, and the profound changes it can facilitate when integrated with therapy. We also explore the importance of therapeutic integration in maximizing the benefits of ketamine, the ethical considerations in psychedelic medicine, and navigating the current regulatory landscape.
Additionally, Dr. Thomas shares her personal journey into mental health and psychedelics, and the importance of authenticity and attachment theory in therapy.
As always, you can send me questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the full show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode404
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https://windroserecovery.com/podcast/therapy-unblinded-inside-mdma-research/
https://www.fluencetraining.com/
Hello, friends!
In today’s episode, we tackle two profound listener questions that may resonate with many of you:
How Do You Feel About Antidepressants and Anti-Anxiety Medications? A listener asks about the use of antidepressants and anti-anxiety medications, expressing concerns about addiction and the potential difficulty of getting off these meds. Dr. Duff shares his positive personal experience with Lexapro, explaining the various classes of medications, including SSRIs, SNRIs, and benzodiazepines. He emphasizes the importance of evaluating both the benefits and potential side effects of these medications, as well as considering the cost of not using them. Dr. Duff also addresses misconceptions about feeling disconnected from reality due to medication and discusses the concept of psychological and physiological dependence.
Dealing with a Hurtful Partner: Another listener seeks advice on how to help their partner understand the impact of their hurtful behavior, which includes yelling and mocking. Dr. Duff offers empathetic support, acknowledging the listener's heartbreak. He outlines the importance of healthy conflict resolution, setting personal boundaries, and recognizing signs of potential abuse. Dr. Duff encourages open communication and suggests resources for improving relationship dynamics, while also addressing the need for safety and support when dealing with ongoing hurtful behavior.
As always, you can send me questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the full show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode403
In this episdoe, I sit down with Jennie Ketcham-Crooks, a licensed therapist, anxiety specialist, and author of the upcoming book "Look Up: The 30-Day Path to Digital Minimalism and Real Life Maximalism."
Jennie shares her compelling journey from an adult film performer to a transformative therapist, opening up about the pivotal moments that shaped her path. They delve deep into the challenges of reducing digital overconsumption, discussing practical, evidence-based strategies from Jennie's book that can help you realign your life with your values and build meaningful real-world connections.
Discover how to take on a 30-day challenge designed to shift your smartphone use from unintentional to intentional, making every minute count towards your personal fulfillment. Robert and Jennie also explore the importance of maintaining human connections in the digital age, the potential impacts of overusing smartphones, and how to cultivate a balanced, intentional relationship with technology. Don't miss Jennie's unique insights on parenting, mental health, and the value of vulnerability and intimacy. Tune in for an episode packed with valuable advice, heartfelt stories, and actionable tips to help you navigate the digital world mindfully. Whether you're looking to cut down on screen time, connect more deeply with those around you, or simply hear an inspiring story of transformation, this interview has something for you.
Be sure to check out Jennie on intagram and at her website to stay tuned for updates on her new book!
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Thank you SO much for joining me for episode 400. I can't believe it's been 400 episodes already. Blows my mind. In this episode, I have a (creepy) mystery question that I share, and I also go through some rapid fire questions from the Hardcore Self Help Facebook group.
A special shout out to everyone who has been with me from the start. Here is to the next 100 episodes!
As always, you can send me questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the full transcript at http://duffthepsych.com/episode400
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Hello, friends!
In today’s episode, we tackle two profound listener questions that may resonate with many of you:
Navigating Dating with a Stutter: A 38-year-old listener shares their struggles with stuttering, particularly how it impacts their dating life. They often need months to work up the courage to ask someone out and lose confidence if they stutter while doing so. We explore the nature of stuttering, its psychological impacts, and offer practical advice on managing anxiety, building self-confidence, and embracing one's uniqueness in social contexts.
Overcoming Self-Harm Scars and Building Confidence: Another listener, who self-harmed from ages 12 to 15, describes the ongoing shame they feel about their visible scars, which has affected their dating life and social activities. They seek advice on how to overcome this fear and become more open about their past. We discuss strategies for self-acceptance, the importance of vulnerability, and ways to reframe scars as symbols of resilience and survival.
As always, you can send me questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the full show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode399
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Hello, friends!
In today’s episode, we tackle three insightful listener questions that many of you might relate to:
Choosing Not to Have Biological Children Due to Mental Illness: A listener shares their decision to not have biological children to avoid passing on their mental health struggles. They feel confident in this choice but encounter surprise and judgment from others. We discuss the validity of their decision, the heritability of mental health conditions, and the importance of respecting personal choices.
Navigating Barriers to Inpatient Mental Health Treatment: Another listener is considering inpatient treatment but faces significant logistical and financial barriers. We explore the challenges of dealing with insurance, paperwork, and managing life responsibilities during treatment. Suggestions for alternative treatment options like intensive outpatient programs (IOP) and partial-hospitalization programs (PHP) are also discussed.
Addressing Mismatched Sex Drives in a Relationship: A listener in a relationship with differing sex drives seeks advice on how to encourage their partner to address potential low testosterone or other medical issues affecting their libido. We delve into the complexities of communication about sexual needs, potential underlying relationship issues, and strategies for fostering open dialogue and seeking professional help.
As always, you can send me questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the full show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode398.
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In today’s episode, we dive deep into a listener’s question about finding the right therapy for a variety of complex mental health issues. This 29-year-old woman is struggling with childhood trauma, mental health challenges such as anxiety and depression, and relationship issues. She is also seeking guidance on possible autism/ADHD symptoms and needs help navigating the overwhelming array of therapy options available.
We explore the IPA framework (Immediacy, Problem, Approach) to help her and others identify the most suitable types of therapy. Additionally, we discuss the different types of therapists and their qualifications, the importance of cultural competency, and practical tips for finding a good therapist using various resources. This episode is a comprehensive guide for anyone looking to start their therapy journey.
As always, you can send me questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the full show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode397
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In today’s episode, we explore the deep and complex emotions involved in expressing love within romantic relationships and the challenging path to recovery following a severe traumatic brain injury. We kick off with a question about the appropriate timing for saying “I love you” in a romantic context, especially considering cultural differences and personal challenges such as being on the autism spectrum. Our listener’s journey brings forward the importance of understanding personal feelings and the unique dynamics of each relationship.
We then shift to an inspiring yet poignant story of miraculous recovery and the persistence of hope. Another listener shares the journey of their mother’s recovery from a severe traumatic brain injury resulting from a car accident. While her recovery has been astonishing, they grapple with the lingering issue of facial numbness. This story highlights the incredible resilience of the human body and spirit, the complexities of the brain's healing process, and the necessity of advocating for comprehensive care that addresses all facets of recovery.
As we navigate these profound topics, remember, whether it's about expressing love or facing the aftermath of a traumatic event, the journey is deeply personal and filled with opportunities for growth and understanding.
As always, you can send your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the full show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode393
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