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The Hardcore Self Help Podcast with Duff the Psych

This is a podcast dedicated to answering your questions about mental health, anxiety, depression, relationships, sex, and life WITHOUT psychobabble BS. I am Dr. Robert Duff, a psychologist from Southern California, but I'm also a regular dude who legitimately wants to help out. I wrote the best selling books Hardcore Self Help: F**k Depression and Hardcore Self Help: F**K Anxiety. Those are available at http://hardcoreselfhelp.com
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Dec 2, 2022

Hello, everyone! Exciting news. My new book, 500 Questions for Dating, Relationships, Romance, and More is out! I talk more about it at the beginning of the epidode, but I really think that it will serve as a useful resource to many of you. Orders are shipping quickly right now, so there is plenty of time to get it before the holidays if you're into that kind of thing.

Anyways, I have an awesome Q&A episode for you today featuring the following listener questions:

  • Is it weird to be turned on and want to masturbate after therapy?
  • How can I get therapy moving faster? Does it make sense to give a new therapist a document of information?

As always, you can send me questions for the show to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode329


This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by Uncommon Goods and Roman Swipes.

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Nov 25, 2022

Hello, friends! Hope you are enjoying some time off with loved ones or some quiet time on your own. Here are the question I cover in this episode:

  • I think antidepressants are causing me to self-injure due to being numb. What should I do?
  • I have hit a rock bottom in my mid 50s including divorce, losing my job, and a DUI. How do I survive?

As always, you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode328


Sponsor:

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Nov 11, 2022

Hello, beautiful people. This is another Q&A episode of the podcast featuring the following questions:

  • How do I know when I enjoy alcohol too much?
  • Why did I push so hard to keep a relationship that wasn't good for me?

As always, you can send me your questions for the show to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode326

 


This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by BetterHelp and Uncommon Goods.

If you are in a mental health slump, consider reaching out to a licensed professional to help. BetterHelp has a large counselor network and you can begin chatting with someone very quickly. Check out betterhelp.com/duff to get 10% off your first month.

Uncommon Goods is here to make your holiday shopping stress-free by scouring the globe for the most remarkable and truly unique gifts for everyone on your list. To get 15% off your next gift, go to uncommongoods.com/duff.

Oct 27, 2022

Hello, all! This week, since it's my birthday week, I am taking it easy and having some fun with the show. As a lot of you know, I've been working on a collection of questions and prompts for dating, relationships, sexuality etc. So, today I am answering some of those questions from my own perspective. Enjoy!


This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by Roman Swipes and BetterHelp.

Roman Swipes are convenient, over-the-counter wipes that are clinically proven to help you last longer in bed. Try Swipes today with a special offer just for listeners of the Hardcore Self Help Podcast with 20% off your first order. Visit getroman.com/DUFF or 20% off.

If you are in a mental health slump, consider reaching out to a licensed professional to help. BetterHelp has a large counselor network and you can begin chatting with someone very quickly. Check out betterhelp.com/duff to get 10% off your first month.

Oct 22, 2022

Hey, everyone! Thanks for your patience in waiting an extra day for the show this week. Seems like everyone is having a weird week, myself included. Mercury must be in reverse cowgirl again or something. ANYWAYS! Here are the questions covered in this episode:

  • How can I help my parents heal and set boundaries without ruining my own mental health?
  • I am losing energy and motivation to search for jobs. What can I do?

As always, you can send me questions to the show to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode323


This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp head over to http://betterhelp.com/duff to get 10% off your first month of online therapy!

Oct 14, 2022

Hello, all! This is a really interesting episode, in my opinion. That's due to your awesome questions! Here's what I cover:

  • When I get angry, I headbutt things, which has given me black eyes. How can I get help?
  • What is trichotillomania and how can you work on it?

As always, you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode322


This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by Audible.

Audible is the leading provider of spoken-word entertainment all in one place, where you can find the largest selection of audiobooks. Sign up now by heading to audible.com/duff or text duff to 500-500, and receive your first 30 days for free.

Sep 23, 2022

Hello, all! Short but sweet episode this time covering the following:

  • What can I do about my fear of dying and leaving behind my paralyzed husband?
  • Is it normal to use antidepressants after a concussion?

As always, you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode320

 


This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by Audible.

Audible is the leading provider of spoken-word entertainment all in one place, where you can find the largest selection of audiobooks. Sign up now by heading to audible.com/duff or text duff to 500-500, and receive your first 30 days for free.

Sep 16, 2022

Hello, all! In this episode I tackle the following topics from listeners like you:

  • My friend is a pilot and is worried about getting therapy because of medical clearance issues. What can they do?
  • I have phobia of medications and injections. How can I use exposure therapy in a situation like this?

As always, you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode319

 


If you find that you could use some help with problem solving in your life, you might benefit from individual therapy done securly online. Check out http://betterhelp.com/duff to get 10% off your first month. Quickly match and switch therapists at any time. 

Aug 26, 2022

Hello, friends! Great episode for you today featuring questions that are follow-ups on previous questions. Here's what I cover:

  • My therapist seems to get frustrated and angry when I'm suicidal. What can I do about this?
  • How can I maintain my self-concept in relationships?

As always, you can send me questions for future episodes to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode316


This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by Magic Mind and BetterHelp.

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If you are in a mental health slump, consider reaching out to a licensed professional to help. BetterHelp has a large counselor network and you can begin chatting with someone very quickly. Check out betterhelp.com/duff to get 10% off your first month.

Aug 19, 2022

Hello, friends. I hope you're taking good care of yourselves. Here are the questions that I cover in this episode:

  • I can't feel emotions. How can I start feeling things?
  • I keep in touch with my old therapist still. Is that holding me back?

As always, you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode315

 


This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by Organifi and Audible.

Organifi is a line of organic superfood blends that offer plant-based nutrition with high quality ingredients and less than 3g of sugar. Go to organifi.com/duff and use code DUFF for 15% off any item in the store.

Audible is the leading provider of spoken-word entertainment all in one place, where you can find the largest selection of audiobooks. Sign up now by heading to audible.com/duff or text duff to 500-500, and receive your first 30 days for free.

Aug 6, 2022

Hello, friends! This is a simpler check-in episode. I update you on what has been going on in my life - particularly this wild week. I also revisit my goals that I outlined for the year and reflect on what has stuck, what has faded, and what I'm okay moving on from. Hope you enjoy! 

As always, you can send me questions for a future episode to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode313


Sponsor:

This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by Organifi.

Organifi is a line of organic superfood blends that offer plant-based nutrition with high quality ingredients and less than 3g of sugar. Go to organifi.com/duff and use code DUFF for 15% off any item in the store.

Jul 29, 2022

Hello, everyone! I hope you've had a great week. Back at you with an awesome Q&A featuring the following questions:

  • My ex-wife was emotionally abusive and controlling to me. We share children and she is constantly belittling me when we interact. What can I do?
  • My psychologist does not seem to be trying very hard in sessions. How can I fix things?

As always, you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode312

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This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by BetterHelp.

If you are in a mental health slump, consider reaching out to a licensed professional to help. BetterHelp has a large counselor network and you can begin chatting with someone very quickly. Check out betterhelp.com/duff to get 10% off your first month.

Jul 22, 2022

Hello, friends! I hope you are staying cool and hydrated if you are in one of the major heatwave areas! In this episode, I answer the following awesome listener questions:

  • How can I stop procrastinating on household tasks, homework, and my job? 
  • My partner said he can't fulfill my love language. What can I do?

As always, you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode311

 


This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by Audible.

Audible is the leading provider of spoken-word entertainment all in one place, where you can find the largest selection of audiobooks. Sign up now by heading to audible.com/duff or text duff to 500-500, and receive your first 30 days for free.

Jun 24, 2022

Hello, all. A big content warning for this episode, the first question deals with suicide and has a bit more detail than other questions I've answered on the show. It's a very worthwhile question and a great topic to discuss, but I just want to make you aware of that.

Here are the topics covered in this Q&A episode:

  • I saw my elderly father kill himself and I am so angry at him. What can I do?
  • My friend stopped medication for anxiety and depression, but she is thinking about starting again. What else can she do to help herself out?

As always, you can send me questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes to this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode308


This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by MUD\WTR and BetterHelp.

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If you are in a mental health slump, consider reaching out to a licensed professional to help. BetterHelp has a large counselor network and you can begin chatting with someone very quickly. Check out betterhelp.com/duff to get 10% off your first month.

Mar 19, 2022

Hey, everyone. I hope you're taking great care of yourselves. In this episode, I start with a moment of vulnerability about my life lately. That is followed by these two great questions sent in by listeners like yourself:

  • My wife has had anxiety for years but does not want to get help for it. What can I do?
  • I have a perfect life, but I remain depressed about the world. How can I cope?

As always, you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode294


This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by Audible and Acorn TV.

Audible is the leading provider of spoken-word entertainment all in one place, where you can find the largest selection of audiobooks. Sign up now by heading to audible.com/duff or text duff to 500-500, and receive your first 30 days for free.

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Dec 10, 2021

Hello, all! Hope your week has been phenomenal. I appreciate you all! In this episode, I tackle the following questions:

  • I was recently ghosted after talking to someone I met on a dating app for a few weeks. Why is it affecting me so much and what can I do about it?
  • How can I get over my exercise-induced anxiety and heart palpatations?

As always you can find the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode282 and send your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com

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Sponsor:

This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by MasterClass and BetterHelp.

MasterClass gives you the chance to learn from the world’s best minds – anytime, anywhere, and at your own pace. Check it out now and get unlimited access to every MasterClass. and as a special offer for listeners, you get 15% off an annual membership! Go to masterclass.com/duff for 15% off MasterClass.

If you are in a mental health slump, consider reaching out to a licensed professional to help. BetterHelp has a large counselor network and you can begin chatting with someone very quickly. Check out betterhelp.com/duff to get 10% off your first month.

Sep 3, 2021

Hello, friends! On this episode, I had my wife back on the show. We just chilled on the couch and had a nice wide-ranging conversation about our lives right now, where our relationship is at, and even some of our pet peeves with each other. Enjoy!

Send me your questions for future episodes to duffthepsych@gmail.com and don't forget to check out my new book of 500 journal prompts!

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MasterClass gives you the chance to learn from the world’s best minds – anytime, anywhere, and at your own pace. Check it out now and get unlimited access to every MasterClass. and as a special offer for listeners, you get 15% off an annual membership! Go to masterclass.com/duff for 15% off MasterClass.

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Aug 27, 2021

Alright, everyone! Another great Q&A for you featuring the following questions:

  • How can I move past my traumatic history of bullying and parental violence?
  • What is the difference between a friendship and intimate relationship?

Don't forget to get your copy of 500 Journal Prompts for Mental Health, Creativity, and Personal Exploration! 

As always, you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and show notes are available at duffthepsych.com/episode267

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Jul 9, 2021

Hello, all! I hope you're taking great care of yourselves. Been a busy busy week over here in DuffLand. In this episode, I cover the following awesome listener questions:

  • How can I overcome my lack of appetite due to anxiety?
  • What can I do about my negative body image?

As always, you can send me questions for the show to duffthepsych@gmail.com you can also find the full show notes at duffthepsych.com/episode260

 

This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by Audible.

Audible is the leading provider of spoken-word entertainment all in one place, where you can find the largest selection of audiobooks. Sign up now by heading to audible.com/duff or text duff to 500-500, and receive your first 30 days for free.

Jun 25, 2021

Hello, friends! Back with part 2 of the rapid fire Q&A. There were so many awesome questions on my original post that I couldn't stop with one episode. Here are the questions I cover:

  • Hi Duff, you’ve touched on this before but… have you ever come across anyone stuck thinking they have reached their maximum potential in life/not sure where to go from their current spot in life, and is there anything you could offer from a physiological perspective to overcome this? Currently feeling like I will be forever stuck in this moment and moving forward seems nearly impossible. (Sorry in advance if the question doesn’t make sense)
  • How does one get over the expectation of being in a relationship? Like you grow up watching relationships and relationships but like...what if it doesn't happen? Should it happen? Also...how can one finally let go of what their parents didn't do while one was growing up... 
  • How can you learn to accept compliments and not be awkward?

I also talk a bit about my own strategies for combatting the darkness that can come with working in a heavily emotional field.

As always, you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com.

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Seed Health is a microbial sciences company pioneering applications of microbes for human and planetary health. Their flagship product Daily Synbiotic provides a broad-spectrum, 2-in-1 probiotic + prebiotic to help aid digestion and improve gut health and beyond. Start a new healthy habit today. Visit seed.com/DUFF and use code DUFF to redeem 20% off your first month of Seed’s Daily Synbiotic.

MasterClass gives you the chance to learn from the world’s best minds – anytime, anywhere, and at your own pace. Check it out now and get unlimited access to every MasterClass. and as a special offer for listeners, you get 15% off an annual membership! Go to masterclass.com/duff for 15% off MasterClass.

Jun 18, 2021

Hello, all! In this episode, I am doing some rapid fire question and answer from a prompt that I threw up on Instagram. Please enjoy! 

If you have a question for the podcast that you'd like me to consider, please send it to duffthepsych@gmail.com and don't forget to use the search bar on duffthepsych.com if you want to see whether I have covered a specific topic in the past. 

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Dec 17, 2020

Hello, friends! Today I am doing a continuation of the last episode. I'm not at the part today, but I am at home cracking away at the Facebook questions in rapid fire fashion. Hope you enjoy! Here are the questions that I answer:

  • How do I find a middle ground between 100% positive and 100% negative?
  • What's the plan for getting back to normal alcohol consumption after higher use during the pandemic?
  • How do you get professional help when you're too depressed to ask for help?
  • What should I do about inappropriate pharmacy staff?

As always you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and be sure to check out the online course if you haven't at kickanxietycourse.com

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Oct 22, 2020

Hello, friends! This is a fascinating Q&A that answers a question relating to something we call non-clinical auditory hallucinations. In other words, hearing something that isn't actually there. I also offer advice on what you can do when you've hit a roadblock with your depression and anxiety. Enjoy!

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If you have a question for a future episode, send it over to duffthepsych@gmail.com

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Sep 24, 2020

Hello, friends. A lot of you have been asking to an update from my wife, Joelle. Today, I have her on the show to talk about what led up to her recent mental health crisis and how things have progressed since that time. She has undergone six ketamine infusion treatments, started with a psychiatrist, and started with a new therapist. We talk about all of these things and she does an amazing job of making visual metaphors for the ways in which she is changing. Enjoy!

This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Check out betterhelp.com/duff to get 10% off your first month of professional online therapy.

Apr 16, 2020

Hello, friends! This is a great interview with Dr. Drew Anderson, a licensed psychologist specializing in assessing and treating eating disorders, body image disturbance, and the psychological and medical problems associated with these things. Keeping with the COVID-19 focus, we chat about things you need to look out for with regard to disordered eating behaviors when you're in quarantine, as well as things anybody can do to help regulate themselves and stay afloat as well as possible during this period. 

As always, you can send me questions or suggestions for future episodes to duffthepsych@gmail.com

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As a reminder, the Kick Anxiety's Ass course will remain open until quarantine ends.

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