The Hardcore Self Help Podcast with Duff the Psych

This is a podcast dedicated to answering your questions about mental health, anxiety, depression, relationships, sex, and life WITHOUT psychobabble BS. I am Dr. Robert Duff, a psychologist from Southern California, but I'm also a regular dude who legitimately wants to help out. I wrote the best selling books Hardcore Self Help: F**k Depression and Hardcore Self Help: F**K Anxiety. Those are available at
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May 28, 2020

Hello, friends! This is a re-release of episode 74, in which I dive deep into 10 tips that you can use to get the most out of therapy. This is great advice whether you are a therapy newbie, a seasoned veteran, or still thinking about whether therapy is for you. Here are the tips I cover:

  1. You don’t need to impress your therapist
  2. Don’t lie to your therapist
  3. Don’t be afraid to get emotional and let it out
  4. Challenge your therapist and correct them
  5. If it’s not working, say something
  6. Find someone you are comfortable with
  7. Get therapy sooner
  8. Take notes and journal
  9. Do the homework and practice the skills
  10. Talk about the relationship between you and your therapist during session

As always, you can send me questions to and don't forget that the Kick Anxiety's Ass course remains open until the quarantine is over (it isn't).

May 22, 2020

Hello, friends! Quick reminder that easing of COVID-19 restrictions does not mean that the pandemic is over. For the sake of at-risk people like me, please continue being smart. 

That said, this episode is a 2-question Q&A covering the following:

  • I feel like I'm getting less out of video therapy. What can I do?
  • I have massive anxiety speaking my 2nd language about certain people. How can I become less anxious?

As always, you can send me questions, topics, or feedback to

May 14, 2020

Hello, friends! This is a nice and easy two-question Q&A episode. I hope you're all taking great care of yourselves and staying healthy. I'll be back next week with another episode! Here are the questions covered this week:

  • I am required to work in the office during COVID and I'm having a hard time. What can I do?
  • I'm anxious about having to do group therapy. Should I avoid it?

As always, you can send me questions to If you haven't yet, make sure to check out my comprehensive online course at

This episode is brought to you by Thrive Market. Go to to learn more.

May 1, 2020

Hello, friends! This episode features an interview that I did with clinical psychologist Dr. Lindsay Weisner. We talk about many things during the interview, but Dr. Weisner's main goal is to destigmatize the conversation surrounding teen suicidality. Listen to learn more about why and how.

This episode is brought to you by Gravity Blankets. Head over to and use the promo code "DUFF" to get 20% off your first weighted blanket order!

Check out the full show notes, including all of Dr. Weisner's links at

Apr 23, 2020

This is another episode in which I turned on the mic and sort of just rambled. I talk about life during quarantine, I talk about my new poly relationship, I talk about how my house is now stuffed to the gills with people and animals, and I talk about how we are all collectively having a hard time focusing. This is a low-key direct from my heart to your ears type of episode. If it bores you to sleep... you're welcome for the sleep!

This episode was sponsored by the Savvy Psychologist podcast. If you are looking for short digestible bites of mental health and psychology information, give them a try!

Apr 16, 2020

Hello, friends! This is a great interview with Dr. Drew Anderson, a licensed psychologist specializing in assessing and treating eating disorders, body image disturbance, and the psychological and medical problems associated with these things. Keeping with the COVID-19 focus, we chat about things you need to look out for with regard to disordered eating behaviors when you're in quarantine, as well as things anybody can do to help regulate themselves and stay afloat as well as possible during this period. 

As always, you can send me questions or suggestions for future episodes to

Our sponsor for this episode is the awesome Gravity Blankets. Check them out and get 20% off your first order by using the promo code "DUFF"!

As a reminder, the Kick Anxiety's Ass course will remain open until quarantine ends.

Apr 9, 2020

In this episode, we are continuing the trend of focusing on content related to the COVID-19 pandemic and quarantine. However, this week, we are getting back to the normal Q&A format. Here are the questions that are covered:

  • What do I do about being stuck with my abusive mother during quarantine?
  • I'm enjoying quarantine. What can I do about my dread of going back to normal?
  • How can I deal with missing physical touch during quarantine?

As always you can send me questions for the show to

This episode is sponsored by Lionrock Recovery. Check out for more info about their confidential online treatment programs for substance use.

Don't forget the Kick Anxiety's Ass course will remain open until the end of quarantine before I close new enrollments.

Apr 2, 2020

This is a much shorter episode than usual. I just wanted to stop in to give you some words of encouragement and just a little bit of advice. You are allowed to be human and we will all get through this together. 

As a reminder, the Kick Anxiety's Ass course enrollments are extended until the quarantine period is finished. Now is the time to invest in your mental health at a hugely discounted rate. Learn more at

Mar 26, 2020

Why hello, everyone. I hope you're quarantine is slightly less maddening than mine... I will likely be putting out episodes that are directly or indirectly related to our collective experience of the covid-19 pandemic for a while.

Today's episode is an entire module from my online course, Kick Anxiety's Ass, which is have extended enrollments in until this pandemic has chilled the heck out. This is module 8: The World Is Crazy. 

There are three lessons covering ways to better manage the flow of information from news and social media. There is so much information and so many updates right now that it's easy to fall into a pattern of compulsively checking your phone. I hope this helps <3

This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. They are a great option for finding support while you are stuck in your home. 

Mar 18, 2020

Hello, friends! Well. Things have changed drastically since the last podcast episode. I was thinking about doing something special for episode 200, but since all of our lives have been consumed by this pandemic and the quarantine efforts, I thought it would be most helpful to do something related to that.

In this episode, I give you a few of my thoughts about how to best get through this time and then guide you through some visualization and breathing to help you let go and get some much needed rest. I truly hope that it helps a bit. 

Mar 12, 2020

Well well well... I definitely did not plan to release this podcast on the week that we find out the world is rapidly approaching a global pandemic, but here we are. In this episode, I speak to guest, Dr. Gordon Asmundson, a psychologist, professor, and author, all about health anxiety. Just as a heads up, we do not talk specifically about COVID-19 or any other Corona viruses in this episode. Rather, this is a subject that many have requested. I will likely speak more about COVID-19 and more about health anxiety in general in a future episode. 

Check out Dr. Asmundson's book, It's Not All in Your Head on Amazon!

And don't forget that you have just days left to hop on the massive Kick Anxiety's Ass course discount before enrollments close entirely. 

Mar 5, 2020

Hello, everyone! Another Q&A episode for you today.

Don't forget that the Kick Anxiety's Ass $75 sale is still going on for a couple weeks before new enrollments close. Check it out if you haven't yet.

Here are the questions covered in this episode:

  • What can I do when therapy apps don't have male providers in my state?
  • How can I deal with the grief from losing my mother?
  • How can I feel less anxiety at my partner's family gatherings?

As always you can send me your questions and suggestions to and full show notes are available at

Lionrock recovery is the sponsor for this episode. Please have a look at their site if you or someone you love needs to change their use of alcohol or other substances.

Feb 27, 2020

This episode is a little different. Rather than doing a Q&A, interview, or deep dive, I just wanted to sit with you for a while and give you some updates on where I'm at in life. I'm a real person, just like you. That the whole point of this Duff the Psych "mental health for real people" thing. So, I want to talk with you about my unexpected career changes, what's going on with my kids, how my relationship is going, and just let you in on the guy that you listen to each week. Hope you aren't bored out of your mind!

As a reminder, the Kick Anxiety's Ass course is still going with the massive price drop down to $75 or $25 monthly. Check it out now while you still have the chance!

Feb 20, 2020

Hello, friends! This is a nice Q&A episode with questions covering a variety of topics. Hopefully I do a decent job responding despite my sleep deprivation and loopiness! 

Here are the questions I cover:

  • Is it okay to switch to a different type of therapy as you progress?
  • How can I intervene and better manage my 11-year-old's extreme behavior outbursts?
  • How can I avoid becoming my mother and ruining my relationship?

Don't forget that the massive price discount on the Kick Anxiety's Ass course is still on! Check it out at

As always, you can send me your questions to 

Feb 13, 2020

Hello, friends! This is a re-release of episode 98, which is an episode that I refer back to quite often on the show. I talk about the concept of exposure as it relates to anxiety and take you through different techniques for lowering your sensitivity to anxiety. This is must-know information for those that are serious about taking their lives back from anxiety.

I also discuss an immediate change to my online course, Kick Anxiety's Ass. The price has been drastically reduced from $300 to $75! Enrollment in the course will be closing on 3/15/20 so that we can revamp the course and add even more awesome features. 

In this episode, I also talk about my blogpost to help you find a therapist, which can be found at

Feb 6, 2020

In this episode, I take the following awesome listener questions:

  • What can I do about my postpartum anxiety and emetophobia?
  • Can you be traumatized by a thought?
  • Is it okay to avoid activities sometimes due to anxiety?

Please continue sending me your amazing questions to

For access to the bonus question, check out my Patreon.

This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp.

Jan 30, 2020

This is a very interesting interview with Cheryl B. Englehardt, who is a government scuba diver turned pop artist turned film composer turned meditation music maker. We talk about her life, struggles with panic attacks, and how starting a daily meditation practice helped stop them in their tracks. We also talk about her new album, Luminary, which is available now! 


Next week will be a Q&A episode, so send me your questions to and if you're interested in checking out my other podcast, about my life and family, have a look at my Patreon.

Jan 23, 2020

Hello, friends! Excited to bring you this new Q&A session with three awesome questions (plus one bonus question for Patreon). 

Here are the questions covered:

  • What can I do about blood, injury, and injection phobia?
  • How can I change my chronic suicidality?
  • How can I make my partner more supportive?

As always you can send me questions to

This week's sponsors are Openfit and BetterHelp

Jan 16, 2020

Super excited to present this episode to you. I had Dr. Steven Mandel on episode 137 of the podcast to talk about the amazing and life-saving treatment of Ketamine infusions, which have been shown to be an incredibly effective treatment for depression, suicidality, and trauma that doesn't respond well to other treatments. In this episode, we talk more about the difference between these IV infusions of Ketamine and a new player in the game, Ketamine nasal spray. Recently, an Esketamine nasal spray called Spravato was approved by the FDA for use in individuals with treatment-resistant depression. We explore what this means for your treatment and for your wallet.

This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by Future.

Jan 9, 2020

Hello, friends! Super happy to bring you this question and answer episode. You'll have to excuse my congestion. The plague continues in the Duff household. If you'd like to get a 4th bonus question, check out my patreon at

Here are the questions covered this week:

  • Should I be worried about the risks of Ketamine infusions?
  • How can I help my mother stop hoarding?
  • What is Acceptance and Commitment Therapy?

As always, if you have questions or topics to suggest, send them over to and stop by my start here page to learn more about what I do!

Jan 2, 2020

This episode is an interview with my wife, Joelle Duff. This is technically the first episode of our new Patreon exclusive Duff Family Podcast, which from here on will only be made available to patrons. That doesn't mean that she will never be on HCSH again, but if you want episodes each month, you'll need to head over the check out the Patreon. 

In this episode, we sit down on the couch together on New Years Eve 2019 to talk about this past year. This has been a rough one for us, and particularly for Joelle. She has had a severe bout of depression this year that really made things difficult for her. Instead of fighting it, she decided to try something different and lean into what her body was telling her. That meant more rest, alone time, etc. It also meant that she was able to recover enough energy to do some amazing stuff like get a dream job and continue being a fantastic mother, wife, and creative partner.

Thank you so much for spending the end of this decade with us. I'm bringing the fire into 2020, so be ready.

Please go show Joelle some love on twitter and instagram!