The Hardcore Self Help Podcast with Duff the Psych

This is a podcast dedicated to answering your questions about mental health, anxiety, depression, relationships, sex, and life WITHOUT psychobabble BS. I am Dr. Robert Duff, a psychologist from Southern California, but I'm also a regular dude who legitimately wants to help out. I wrote the best selling books Hardcore Self Help: F**k Depression and Hardcore Self Help: F**K Anxiety. Those are available at
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Dec 28, 2016

Hey everyone! Back with another question and answer episode after a nice little holiday. I am slightly scatter brained this episode because people kept ringing the door and interrupting me. Grrrrrrr! This episode has some great questions though, so I hope you find some useful bits of information here. This is what I cover:

  • What should I expect from medication for depression?
  • How can I address my anxiety about money?
  • How can I motivate my depressed spouse to clean the house?

If you have questions, please send them over to me at or on twitter at


Dec 21, 2016

In this episode I do something pretty different. Rather than take mental health questions, I present three ideas that I "stole" from people in fields OTHER than psychology. However, these are ideas that I think have great applications to life, emotions, and mental health. Two ideas are stolen from Tim Ferriss, who is the author of the 4 Hour book series and has an amazing podcast called the Tim Ferriss Show. The other idea is stolen from Chris Hardwick, who is the creator of the Nerdist network and a television host. 

Here are the ideas I would like you to ponder:

  • Do I need to gain it the same way I lost it?
  • What would this look like if it were easy?
  • You can not reason someone out of a position that they did not reason themselves into.

Next week will most likely be another Q&A, so send your questions over to or hit me up on twitter at


Dec 14, 2016

This episode has some tough questions! I'm glad you aren't going easy on me. Keep them coming, please! Here is what I cover:

  • How can you tell the difference between self-care and just being lazy or avoiding?
  • What can I do when I am jealous of my friend making close relationships with other people?
  • What should I do, as a senior in high school, about my mental health issues?


Please continue to send me your awesome questions to or on twitter at

Dec 7, 2016

On this episode I do a deep dive into physical symptoms and cues that are related to anxiety. Often people feel a physical sensation and their brain misinterprets it for anxiety, which prompts those familiar feelings of panic. We talk all about that. 

As a reminder, you can get a free audiobook on me by checking out and you can check out MY books over at

Next week is a Q and A episode, so please send me your questions at or

Nov 30, 2016

Great variety of questions this week. I start the episode off by sharing some of my personal strategies for coping with stress and anxiety. Then it's straight into the questions. In one of the questions, I mention an earlier episode focusing on internet therapy, so here's the link for that: Here are the questions I take:

  • How can I tell me Mom that I need help without her being disappointed in me?
  • What should I do now that my therapist abandoned me?
  • How do I get back to my old self when chronic illness has me depressed?

Please send me more questions! You can reach me via email at or on twitter at




Nov 23, 2016

Thanks for your patience with my little break last week. I needed to allow myself to be human for a bit. Hopefully you enjoyed and made good use of the guided relaxation. This week it's back to the questions. I take some tough but important questions in this episode. Here's what we cover:

  • Is it possible for a relationship to survive emotional abuse?
  • Should I be worried about my word finding difficulties?
  • How do I feel better about cutting ties with my family?

As always you can send me your questions at or on twitter at


Nov 16, 2016

Things have been weird over here in the states. I need a break from podcasting this week and I think we could all use a little relaxation. Whether this relaxation is to help you cope or to rejuvenate you to get back out there and keep at it... you deserve a few deep breaths. What I uploaded for you this week is a guided muscle relaxation. There is no intro or anything like that. I just dive straight into a walkthrough of how you can use your breath and muscle tension to put yourself into a deep state of relaxation. Enjoy and take good care of yourselves.

Nov 9, 2016

Thanks so much to those of you who recently left iTunes reviews. I really appreciate it. These are the three episodes that I took on this episode:

  • What can I do to help my brother with OCD?
  • What if social anxiety gets in the way of therapy?
  • How can I cope with my extremely stressful job?

I also mentioned some links in this episode...

Sorting Therapy:

Teen Vogue Article:


TalkSpace Episode:


As always you can send me your questions at or

Nov 2, 2016

Hello! A nice wide ranging set of questions this time. Don't be afraid to send in any questions that you have. There are no bad questions (within reason...)! 

Here's what we cover in this episode:

  • How do you find a therapist who meets certain demographic specifications?
  • Is pain a necessary part of changing behavior?
  • Should you have firm boundaries with a parent?

As always you can send your questions to or hit me up on twitter at


Oct 26, 2016

Another great episode full of your questions. We start off pretty heavy and then move to some lighter questions. I did record this in the middle of the day and my son started having a meltdown upstairs, so if you listen close you can hear some of him crying toward the end of the episode. Oops! 

I would really appreciate it if you shared the show with your friends and/or wrote a review of the show on iTunes. THANKS!!

Here are the questions in this episode:

  • How can I care for myself and start to feel alive again with an alcoholic partner and an overwhelming life?
  • What should I do about a therapist that talks about himself too much?
  • How can I focus on self-improvement when I'm overwhelmed with school and work?

As always you can send me your questions big or small to or 

Oct 19, 2016

You asked for it! Here's a deep dive episode all about Attention Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder. I briefly mention this, but I didn't give nearly enough emphasis to the fact that you can have the primarily inattentive type, the hyperactive/impulsive type, or the combined type. Oops!

In the episode, I mention my interview on the MyCoda podcast, which you can find here:

You should also be checking me out on facebook


Next week is a Q&A, so send me your questions!!


Oct 13, 2016

I'm back from a quick little vacation and ready to get back into the grind! This episode, I took three questions from the same person. Thought it would be an interesting thing to do and they sent in a nice variety of questions. Here's what is covered:

-Would group therapy or individual therapy be better for me?

-How can parents create an emotionally open environment for their kids?

-What do I do if I feel comfortable in my depression?


As always you can reach me through email at or on twitter at


Oct 5, 2016

I know I saw this every week, but we have some awesome questions today. I get the opportunity to give into some tough questions and hopefully provide a little insight into some of the more difficult mental health issues. 

Don't forget to check out if you want a free audiobook. 

Keep the awesome questions coming. Shoot me an email to or find me at or 


Sep 28, 2016

In this episode, I do something a bit different. Earlier today (9/27/16) I gave a professional talk to a group of people about dementia. The point of my talk was to give them a thorough understanding of dementia in general and to describe some of the specific types that you might encounter. This episode is a little more straight forward and informational than my other shows, but if you are interested in sitting through a 1-hour crash course with me, I encourage you to have a listen! 

If you have any additional questions, shoot me an email to


Sep 21, 2016

Hello, friends! As always thank you for continuing to supply me with a wealth of super awesome, honest, and candid questions. Today is no exception. I cover three really great listener questions in depth. I need your feedback! What topics would you like me to cover in my future "deep dive" episodes? 

Here are the questions for this episode:

  • Should I be worried about the critical voice in my head and what can I do about my crippling anxiety?
  • How can I get over a break up when there is money involved?
  • Does this count as emotional abuse? What should I do about it?

As always you can send me your questions to or on twitter at

Sep 14, 2016

I really enjoyed the variety of questions in this episode. Please keep sending me in such awesome questions because they keep the show fresh and interesting. This is your show too! 

I share a little secret about the Audible Trial in this episode, so head by to put it to good use. 

Here are the questions that I cover:

  • As a man, what can I do to better deal with my anorexic tendencies?
  • What should I do when I can't handle hearing the emotional burden from my friends because it drains me and gets me worked up?
  • Should I be worried about my 4-year-old's imaginary friends when there is a family history of schizophrenia?

As always you can reach me through email at or on twitter at


Sep 7, 2016

This episode is a deep dive look into how you can suck less at sleeping. Sponsored this week by audible. Check out for a free month of audible and one free book. 

Here are the cliffnotes of this episode:

  • Good habits related to sleep are called "Sleep Hygiene" 
  • Most of it comes down to association and conditioning
  • You should have a consistent sleep routine
  • You should ONLY sleep in your bed vs working on the laptop, using your phone etc.
  • Get your phone out of the room
  • Wind down and go offline 30 min before bed
  • Avoid exercise, caffeine etc.

Keep sending me your questions to or on twitter at

Aug 31, 2016

Super awesome and very brave questions today with some common themes between them. Thank you all so much for continuing to be active participants in this show. Not only are you doing something great for yourself by asking your questions, but you may be helping someone else with a similar concern. Here's what we cover in today's episode:

  • Will my therapist break confidentiality if I disclose information about past self-harm?
  • What should I do if my therapist feels TOO emotionally close to me?
  • Is my current relationship just another form of self-harm? 

As always you can reach me on twitter at or via email at 


Aug 24, 2016

Before I talk about the episode, get your buns over to so that you can enter to win some awesome free stuff. Ending this week.

Anyway, this was another awesome possum question and answer episode. Super pleased with the variety of questions. Nice work and please keep them coming. Here is what we cover in this episode:

  • How do I cope with feeling detached from my body and experiences?
  • What should I do about a toxic friend?
  • What happens when you "know" for a fact that you are bad. Therapy can't help with that, right?

As always you can reach my on twitter at or email me

Aug 17, 2016

This is another deep dive episode where I focus on one topic and give you more in depth information than I typically do on the Q&A episodes. In this one, I talk all about the different terminology related to mental health treatment. I talk about the different terms for treatment itself such as therapy, psychotherapy, and counseling as well as the different people who provide services such as psychologists, psychiatrists, therapists, neurologists, and more. 

Fair warning- this information is pretty USA based since some of the terminology varies, but I hope it is helpful nonetheless! 

Next week will indeed be another Q&A episode, so keep sending your questions into me at or

Aug 10, 2016

On this episode, I talk with Heather Gray from about how she has been able to overcome the very difficult speed bumps in her life by being brave and re-choosing to live a happy life. She is a super strong woman and I think that definitely comes through in the interview. We did experience a few little technical issues during the interview, but I tried my best to edit around them. Apologies if I missed anything. 

Please check out Heather on twitter at and visit her website at

Next week is another Q&A so make sure you are sending in your questions! 

Aug 3, 2016

Another FANTASTIC grouping of questions today. This one is a little on the longer side, but I think there is a lot of valuable content to be had here. Above all I think that these questions were very BRAVE. Keep them coming! 

Don't forget to check out the NEW AUDIOBOOK for F**k Depression at

Here are the questions that are covered in this episode:

  • Should I be concerned about my feelings of anxiety and depression or is this just normal for a 14 year old?
  • How can I help my husband be less hard on my daughter about her weight and diet?
  • Should I avoid going into the mental health profession due to my own issues?

Don't forget to send your questions in to or

Jul 27, 2016

This was a fun one for me. In this episode, I do a "deep dive" into Pokemon Go and mental health. I talk about why the game is so effective and addicting as well as how that can be used in a very real way to combat mental health issues. I also address one particular way that it could cause distress for some. Please continue the conversation on twitter at and let me know your thoughts!

Jul 20, 2016

This episode fought back! My computer crashed when I recorded it the first time and I lost everything. Oh well. No biggie. Re-recorded it for you here and I don't mind at all because the questions were so great! Here's what we cover:

-Why don't my friends notice when I don't show up?

-How can I help my patients who seem traumatized from their medical treatment?

-Is it worth it to keep trying when I'm so depressed? 

As always you can send me your questions on twitter at or through email at

Jul 13, 2016

I'm not sick anymore! Yayyyy! This is another Q&A episode with some of my favorite questions yet. Don't forget to check the new merch at:

Here are the questions covered:

-Is it ever smart to just avoid situations that might trigger anxiety?
-How can I help a teen with a rough upbringing?
-Are my repressed memories of abuse real?

Don't forget to send me questions on twitter at or via email at 

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