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The Hardcore Self Help Podcast with Duff the Psych

This is a podcast dedicated to answering your questions about mental health, anxiety, depression, relationships, sex, and life WITHOUT psychobabble BS. I am Dr. Robert Duff, a psychologist from Southern California, but I'm also a regular dude who legitimately wants to help out. I wrote the best selling books Hardcore Self Help: F**k Depression and Hardcore Self Help: F**K Anxiety. Those are available at http://hardcoreselfhelp.com
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May 20, 2022

Hello, all! Straight forward Q&A this week with the following awesome listener questions:

  • I used to be able to have sex numerous times consecutively, but ever since a panic attack, I havet been unable to. What is going on?
  • I am having trouble doing my therapist's exposure activities due to panic attacks. How can I do better?

As always, you can send me questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode303


This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by BetterHelp.

If you are in a mental health slump, consider reaching out to a licensed professional to help. BetterHelp has a large counselor network and you can begin chatting with someone very quickly. Check out betterhelp.com/duff to get 10% off your first month.

May 13, 2022

Hello, friends! I hope you're doing well. After a very gross story at the top of the episode, I get into the following questions:

  • What can I do about decreased intimacy in my marriage?
  • I am too depressed to do anything what can I do?

As always, you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode302

 


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May 6, 2022

Hello, everyone! I hope you're having a great week. Just a nice straightfoward Q&A for you today featuring the following questions:

  • After 12 years of a great marriage, my husband had a sudden realization that he wants to leave. What can I do?
  • My mother was in a terrible car crash and is afraid of remembering what happened. Is that a possibility?

As always, you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode301


This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by BetterHelp.

If you are in a mental health slump, consider reaching out to a licensed professional to help. BetterHelp has a large counselor network and you can begin chatting with someone very quickly. Check out betterhelp.com/duff to get 10% off your first month.

Apr 29, 2022

Hello, everyone! 

Episode 300!! Holy moly. Thank you so much for sticking with me on this ride. I appreciate your trust and attention so very much. This episode is much like any other. A solid question and answer featuring the following:

  • How can I ask for help as an 18-year-old guy?
  • My relationship failed due to my inability to communicate my feelings. How can I improve?

As always, you can send me questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and you can find the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode300


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Apr 22, 2022

Hello, friends! I hope you've had a really good week. My week here has been pretty good. As I mention in the episode, I didn't really plan anything good for the 300th episode of the show, BUT I wanted to open things up to you all. If you have written in a question or heard a question from the show that caused you to make a change in your life or there is a follow up story to your original question, I'd love to hear it. Shoot me an email to duffthepsych@gmail.com!

Anyways, here are the questions that I cover in this episode:

  • Why did nobody tell me that there is mind-based and body-based anxiety?
  • I have experienced a lot of mistreatment and discrimination in my life. This has led to a victim mentality. How do I get myself out of the victim mentality and start taking ownership of my life?

As always, you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and you can find the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode299


This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by Acorn TV and BetterHelp.

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If you are in a mental health slump, consider reaching out to a licensed professional to help. BetterHelp has a large counselor network and you can begin chatting with someone very quickly. Check out betterhelp.com/duff to get 10% off your first month.

Apr 15, 2022

Hello, friends! I hope you have had a wonderful week. For today's episode, I answer the following awesome listener questions:

  • I am thinking of going into clinical psychology, but as a sensitive person, I am afraid of emotionally burning out. What can I do to avoid this?
  • I have lost someone every year since 2015. How can I get back to a normal life with so much loss?

As always, you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode298

 


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Apr 10, 2022

Hello, everyone! Thank you for your patience on this one. Had to take a couple extra days so that I didn't lose my mind with work. This episode features the following questions:

  • After college, I don't know what to do with my life and find myself depressed. How can I move forward?
  • My family expects me to be the peacekeeper and therapist. How can I set better boundaries?

As always, you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode297

 


This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by BetterHelp and MasterClass

If you are in a mental health slump, consider reaching out to a licensed professional to help. BetterHelp has a large counselor network and you can begin chatting with someone very quickly. Check out betterhelp.com/duff to get 10% off your first month.

MasterClass gives you the chance to learn from the world’s best minds – anytime, anywhere, and at your own pace. Check it out now and get unlimited access to every MasterClass. and as a special offer for listeners, you get 15% off an annual membership! Go to masterclass.com/duff for 15% off MasterClass.

Apr 1, 2022
Hello, all! This before I get into the questions this week, I talk a bit about my personal situation. Unfortunately, I had a breakup with a partner of mine and I share some of the realizations that I had in the process as well as my protocol for making it through this sort of hardship. After that, I jump into the following awesome listener questions:
  • I have had bipolar I for a long time, but started getting a new symptom of paranoid thoughts over the past few years. Why might this be happening?
  • My workplace and coworkers are toxic, but I am a non-confrontational person. What can I do about it?

As always, you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode296


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Mar 25, 2022

Hello, friends! I hope that you are caring well for your hearts this week. It's wild out there. Here are the questions I cover in this week's episode:

  • My history of sexual abuse makes dating complicated. How can I move forward?
  • My husband cheated on me but doesn't want to do couples therapy. How can I stop resenting him?

As always, you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode295


This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by Athletic Greens and Betterhelp.

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If you are in a mental health slump, consider reaching out to a licensed professional to help. BetterHelp has a large counselor network and you can begin chatting with someone very quickly. Check out betterhelp.com/duff to get 10% off your first month.

Mar 19, 2022

Hey, everyone. I hope you're taking great care of yourselves. In this episode, I start with a moment of vulnerability about my life lately. That is followed by these two great questions sent in by listeners like yourself:

  • My wife has had anxiety for years but does not want to get help for it. What can I do?
  • I have a perfect life, but I remain depressed about the world. How can I cope?

As always, you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode294


This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by Audible and Acorn TV.

Audible is the leading provider of spoken-word entertainment all in one place, where you can find the largest selection of audiobooks. Sign up now by heading to audible.com/duff or text duff to 500-500, and receive your first 30 days for free.

Acorn TV is a commercial-free streaming service that’s rooted in British television. Escape to Britain and beyond without leaving your seat and try Acorn TV free for 30 days, by going to acorn.tv and using the promo code duff when you sign up!

Mar 11, 2022

Hey, friends! I hope you're having a great week. This is a very interesting episode with the following questions:

  • I am attracted to my therapist and saw her on a non-traditional dating app. When I brought this up, she refused to talk about it. What should I do?
  • How should cannabis use disorders be handled when there are also mental health issues?

As always, you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode293


This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by BetterHelp and MasterClass

If you are in a mental health slump, consider reaching out to a licensed professional to help. BetterHelp has a large counselor network and you can begin chatting with someone very quickly. Check out betterhelp.com/duff to get 10% off your first month.

MasterClass gives you the chance to learn from the world’s best minds – anytime, anywhere, and at your own pace. Check it out now and get unlimited access to every MasterClass. and as a special offer for listeners, you get 15% off an annual membership! Go to masterclass.com/duff for 15% off MasterClass.

Mar 4, 2022

Hello, friends! This is a short and sweet episode where I answer the following question:

  • I recently learned of my partner's previous threesome. I can't stop feeling disgust and anxiety from it, even though I know that's not fair. How can I deal with this?

As always, you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode292

 


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Feb 25, 2022

Hello, everyone! Pretty heavy episode this time. Nothing graphic, as usual, but I decided to tackle some tricky questions. Before hopping into the questions, I share a quick tip about managing the news cycle during this really intense time. Here are the questions covered:

  • My kid's school had two people die by suicide this year. How can I talk to them about it and should we switch schools?
  • I was abused as a child and have trouble remembering it without dissociating. What can I do?

As always, you can send me questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode291


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If you are in a mental health slump, consider reaching out to a licensed professional to help. BetterHelp has a large counselor network and you can begin chatting with someone very quickly. Check out betterhelp.com/duff to get 10% off your first month.

Feb 18, 2022

Hello, friends! I hope you are all doing well. In this episode, I start off with a quick update about my experience so far on Lexapro (escitalopram), an SSRI medication for anxiety. After that, I jump straight into the following super interesting questions:

  • I have OCD with intrusive thoughts about harming my loved ones. What can I do about this?
  • I ruminate about therapy constantly, having imaginary conversations in my head. Is that bad?

As always, you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode290

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This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by Acorn TV and Audible.

Acorn TV is a commercial-free streaming service that’s rooted in British television. Escape to Britain and beyond without leaving your seat and try Acorn TV free for 30 days, by going to acorn.tv and using the promo code duff when you sign up!

Audible is the leading provider of spoken-word entertainment all in one place, where you can find the largest selection of audiobooks. Sign up now by heading to audible.com/duff or text duff to 500-500, and receive your first 30 days for free.

Feb 11, 2022
Hey, all! Nice Q&A episode for you here. The second questions talks a bit about suicidality, but nothing too graphic. Very interesting stuff. Here's what I cover:
  • How do you feel about therapists self-disclosing in therapy?
  • Should I be concerned about my passive suicidal thoughts or are they just intrusive thoughts?

As always, you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode289


This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by BetterHelp and MasterClass

If you are in a mental health slump, consider reaching out to a licensed professional to help. BetterHelp has a large counselor network and you can begin chatting with someone very quickly. Check out betterhelp.com/duff to get 10% off your first month.

MasterClass gives you the chance to learn from the world’s best minds – anytime, anywhere, and at your own pace. Check it out now and get unlimited access to every MasterClass. and as a special offer for listeners, you get 15% off an annual membership! Go to masterclass.com/duff for 15% off MasterClass.

Feb 4, 2022
Hey, everyone. Short and sweet episode today featuring the following questions:
  • I am a minor in therapy. What can my therapist share with my parents about self-harm?
  • How can I tell the difference between a physical issue like hypothyroidism and a mental health issue like depression?

As always, you can send me questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode288

 

No sponsor this week, so please check out my recent book, 500 Journal Prompts! 

Jan 28, 2022

Hello, friends! This episode features two questions related to trauma. There is nothing violent or explicit described, but both questions do involve childhood abuse. Just be aware. Here is what is covered in this episode:

  • I sometimes doubt that my trauma ever happened and use self-harm as a way to remind myself that it did. What can I do?
  • I have several psychiatric disorders and my psychiatrist wants me to be evaluated for ADHD. How can I tell the difference between ADHD and symptoms caused by my other issues?

As always, you can send me questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode287

 


This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by Acorn TV.

Acorn TV is a commercial-free streaming service that’s rooted in British television. Escape to Britain and beyond without leaving your seat and try Acorn TV free for 30 days, by going to acorn.tv and using the promo code duff when you sign up!

Jan 21, 2022
Hey, friends! I hope that your week has been great. I want to give you a big thanks for listening to the show. I really appreciate you. This is a question and answer episode where I tackle the following:
  • How can I get over my anxiety about having unstructured time off from work?
  • I have erectile dysfunction with my new partner and my doctor thinks it is psychological. What can I do?

As always, you can send me questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode286

 


This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by Chomper Labs and BetterHelp.

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If you are in a mental health slump, consider reaching out to a licensed professional to help. BetterHelp has a large counselor network and you can begin chatting with someone very quickly. Check out betterhelp.com/duff to get 10% off your first month.

Jan 14, 2022

Hello, all! I hope that you are having a fantastic week. Unfortunately, omicron has found its way into the Duff household, but alas... the show must go on!

I have a great Q&A episode with the following questions submitted by listeners like you:

  • My wife died two years ago, and I am still completely closed off to romantic connections. What can I do?
  • Is it possible to be traumatized by hearing about something bad happening to someone else?

As always, you can send questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode285

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This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by Audible and Chomper Labs.

Audible is the leading provider of spoken-word entertainment all in one place, where you can find the largest selection of audiobooks. Sign up now by heading to audible.com/duff or text duff to 500-500, and receive your first 30 days for free.

Chomper Labs believe that everyone has a right to quality affordable oral care and specialize in custom made night guards for teeth grinding. Right now, listeners of the podcast can get $15 off their first night guard plus Free 3 way shipping with code DUFF. Just visit chomperlabs.com/DUFF.

Jan 7, 2022

Hello, friends! Haven't talked in a little while. I hope you have been enjoying yourself. I am back this week with a new episode. This time instead of a Q&A, I am going to be talking about how I am approaching the year. I go through a LOT in this episode, come hang for about an hour and listen to me ramble. 

Show notes are available at http://duffthepsych.com/episode284

And if you want to send me a question for a future episode, shoot me an email at duffthepsych@gmail.com

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This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by BetterHelp and MasterClass

If you are in a mental health slump, consider reaching out to a licensed professional to help. BetterHelp has a large counselor network and you can begin chatting with someone very quickly. Check out betterhelp.com/duff to get 10% off your first month.

MasterClass gives you the chance to learn from the world’s best minds – anytime, anywhere, and at your own pace. Check it out now and get unlimited access to every MasterClass. and as a special offer for listeners, you get 15% off an annual membership! Go to masterclass.com/duff for 15% off MasterClass.

Dec 17, 2021

Hello, all! Great episode here for you today thanks to a couple awesome listener questions. If you haven't yet gotten a copy of my 500 Journal Prompts book, it makes a perfect little stocking stuffer. Check it out!

Here are the questions from this episode:

  • My sister is depressed, even though nothing is wrong with her life and I'm frustrated by it. What can I do?
  • Due to my addiction to methamphetamine and heroin, I feel like I don't deserve to get better. Should I feel this way?

As always, you can send me questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode283

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This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by BetterHelp and Acorn TV.

If you are in a mental health slump, consider reaching out to a licensed professional to help. BetterHelp has a large counselor network and you can begin chatting with someone very quickly. Check out betterhelp.com/duff to get 10% off your first month.

Acorn TV is a commercial-free streaming service that’s rooted in British television. Escape to Britain and beyond without leaving your seat and try Acorn TV free for 30 days, by going to acorn.tv and using the promo code duff when you sign up!

Dec 10, 2021

Hello, all! Hope your week has been phenomenal. I appreciate you all! In this episode, I tackle the following questions:

  • I was recently ghosted after talking to someone I met on a dating app for a few weeks. Why is it affecting me so much and what can I do about it?
  • How can I get over my exercise-induced anxiety and heart palpatations?

As always you can find the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode282 and send your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com

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Sponsor:

This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by MasterClass and BetterHelp.

MasterClass gives you the chance to learn from the world’s best minds – anytime, anywhere, and at your own pace. Check it out now and get unlimited access to every MasterClass. and as a special offer for listeners, you get 15% off an annual membership! Go to masterclass.com/duff for 15% off MasterClass.

If you are in a mental health slump, consider reaching out to a licensed professional to help. BetterHelp has a large counselor network and you can begin chatting with someone very quickly. Check out betterhelp.com/duff to get 10% off your first month.

Dec 3, 2021

Hello, friends! Thank you to all of you that have been sharing the podcast as part of your Spotify Wrapped posts. Amazing to think that I've been a significant part of your year. I appreciate you so much!

In this episode, I tackle the following questions:

  • I've worked through most of my trauma, but issues still arise in my relationship from time to time. How can I avoid passing these issues down to my young child?
  • I work with severe populations in a healthcare setting. I feel like I could be experiencing caregiver burnout. Is this possible and what can I do about it?

As always, you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and get the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode281

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Nov 27, 2021

Hello, all! If you spent some time off from work and/or with loved ones over the "holiday", I hope you have really enjoyed yourself. I'm incredibly grateful for you all. In this episode, I tackle the following awesome listener questions:

  • I have a much lower sexual drive than my spouse and she thinks I don't find her attractive because of it. What can I do?
  • Every time I'm in a relationship, my mental health crumbles. Why?

As always, you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes to this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode280

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This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by MasterClass and Skylight Calendar.

MasterClass gives you the chance to learn from the world’s best minds – anytime, anywhere, and at your own pace. Check it out now and get unlimited access to every MasterClass. and as a special offer for listeners, you get 15% off an annual membership! Go to masterclass.com/duff for 15% off MasterClass.

With a mission to connect loved ones, Skylight Calendar displays your family events on a simple, touchscreen device. Now, as a special offer, you can get $10 off your purchase of a Skylight Calendar when you go to skylightframe.com/calendar and enter code HARDCORE at checkout.

Nov 27, 2021

Hello, all! If you spent some time off from work and/or with loved ones over the "holiday", I hope you have really enjoyed yourself. I'm incredibly grateful for you all. In this episode, I tackle the following awesome listener questions:

  • I have a much lower sexual drive than my spouse and she thinks I don't find her attractive because of it. What can I do?
  • Every time I'm in a relationship, my mental health crumbles. Why?

As always, you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes to this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode280

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This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by MasterClass and Skylight Calendar.

MasterClass gives you the chance to learn from the world’s best minds – anytime, anywhere, and at your own pace. Check it out now and get unlimited access to every MasterClass. and as a special offer for listeners, you get 15% off an annual membership! Go to masterclass.com/duff for 15% off MasterClass.

With a mission to connect loved ones, Skylight Calendar displays your family events on a simple, touchscreen device. Now, as a special offer, you can get $10 off your purchase of a Skylight Calendar when you go to skylightframe.com/calendar and enter code HARDCORE at checkout.

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