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The Hardcore Self Help Podcast with Duff the Psych

This is a podcast dedicated to answering your questions about mental health, anxiety, depression, relationships, sex, and life WITHOUT psychobabble BS. I am Dr. Robert Duff, a psychologist from Southern California, but I'm also a regular dude who legitimately wants to help out. I wrote the best selling books Hardcore Self Help: F**k Depression and Hardcore Self Help: F**K Anxiety. Those are available at http://hardcoreselfhelp.com
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Jul 23, 2021

Hello, all! So just a little heads up. I'm super annoyed because in this episode, there were a couple undesirable sounds including a loud as cricket that wanted to ruin my life and also a rattling microphone that was being dramatic whenever I slightly bumped it.

Aside from that, it was a great episode that covers the following questions:

  • I love my partner, but I crave attention from others. Why am I this way and what can I do about it?
  • I may have borderline personality disorder, but don't want my diagnosis to be a crutch. What can I do to live a normal life?

As always, you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes at duffthepsych.com/episode262

 

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Jul 16, 2021

Hello, friends! Another Q&A Episode for you today featuring the following questions:

  • What can I do about my separation anxiety every time my partner leaves?
  • Why am I so mad at my therapist for diagnosing me with an eating disorder?

As always, you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the full show notes at duffthepsych.com/episode261

 

This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by BetterHelp.

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Jul 9, 2021

Hello, all! I hope you're taking great care of yourselves. Been a busy busy week over here in DuffLand. In this episode, I cover the following awesome listener questions:

  • How can I overcome my lack of appetite due to anxiety?
  • What can I do about my negative body image?

As always, you can send me questions for the show to duffthepsych@gmail.com you can also find the full show notes at duffthepsych.com/episode260

 

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Jul 2, 2021

Hello, friends! I hope you are taking great care of yourselves this week. To be honest, I've seen a lot of people having a bit of a hard time. If you are in this camp, I see you! This episode features the following amazing listener questions:

  • My mother-in-law's son just died by suicide. How can I best support her?
  • I am hoping to return to work after taking a break due to severe mental health issues. How can I make it work?

As always you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and see full show notes at duffthepsych.com/episode259

This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by Better Help and Cozy Earth.

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Jun 25, 2021

Hello, friends! Back with part 2 of the rapid fire Q&A. There were so many awesome questions on my original post that I couldn't stop with one episode. Here are the questions I cover:

  • Hi Duff, you’ve touched on this before but… have you ever come across anyone stuck thinking they have reached their maximum potential in life/not sure where to go from their current spot in life, and is there anything you could offer from a physiological perspective to overcome this? Currently feeling like I will be forever stuck in this moment and moving forward seems nearly impossible. (Sorry in advance if the question doesn’t make sense)
  • How does one get over the expectation of being in a relationship? Like you grow up watching relationships and relationships but like...what if it doesn't happen? Should it happen? Also...how can one finally let go of what their parents didn't do while one was growing up... 
  • How can you learn to accept compliments and not be awkward?

I also talk a bit about my own strategies for combatting the darkness that can come with working in a heavily emotional field.

As always, you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com.

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Jun 18, 2021

Hello, all! In this episode, I am doing some rapid fire question and answer from a prompt that I threw up on Instagram. Please enjoy! 

If you have a question for the podcast that you'd like me to consider, please send it to duffthepsych@gmail.com and don't forget to use the search bar on duffthepsych.com if you want to see whether I have covered a specific topic in the past. 

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Jun 11, 2021

Hello, friends! This episode is a re-post of an interview I did a couple years ago with the amazing Dr. Laura Copley. Dr. Copley is a trauma specialist and talks all about PTSD, trauma misconceptions, posttraumatic growth, and gives you some practical tools to use if you encounter trauma in your life. 

She's doing a bunch of cool stuff including online courses, which you can learn all about over at lauracopley.com

As always, you can send me questions or topics to duffthepsych@gmail.com and also please let me know if you'd like me to start doing interviews again!

 

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Jun 4, 2021

Hello, friends! I hope you're having a really good week. Enjoyed making this episode for you. The questions here have somewhat of a theme. Here are the questions I take:

  • I don't have access to psychiatry in my area. Can I use St. John's wort to treat my depression?
  • I live in a place where mental health is taboo. How can I improve my anxiety around sleeping without treatment?

As always, you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and check out the show notes for this episode at duffthepsych.com/episode255.

 

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May 28, 2021

Hello, all! Hopefully you are doing well and sleeping better than I have been recently. Yikes. This episode is another Q&A with some awesome and vulnerable listener-submitted questions. Here's what I cover:

  • Why do I keep gravitating toward media that reminds me of my trauma?
  • I feel like a failure of a mother due to my depression. What can I do?

As always, you can send me questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes for this episode at duffthepsych.com/episode254

 

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May 21, 2021

Hello, friends! After a little (big) ramble about the hardest part in my job as a neuropsychologist, I answer the following questions:

  • Can bipolar misdiagnosis make symptoms worse? Can bipolar be managed without medication?
  • Why can't I study or get out of bed at all?

As always, you can send me questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and check out the full show notes at duffthepsych.com/episode253

 

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May 14, 2021

Hello, friends! After a long ramble about some terribly nerdy stuff, I get into two really good listener questions today. Here's what I cover:

  • My spouse claims that I am the cause of their depression and we do not have a good relationship. Would divorcing them cause too much harm?
  • I am back in college as a 30 year old and feel out of place. What should I do?

As always, you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and check out the full show notes at duffthepsych.com/episode252

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May 14, 2021

Hello, friends! After a long ramble about some terribly nerdy stuff, I get into two really good listener questions today. Here's what I cover:

  • My spouse claims that I am the cause of their depression and we do not have a good relationship. Would divorcing them cause too much harm?
  • I am back in college as a 30 year old and feel out of place. What should I do?

As always, you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and check out the full show notes at duffthepsych.com/episode252

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May 7, 2021

Hello, all! In this episode, I answer two questions submitted by awesome listeners like yourself. I hope you enjoy and that you're taking great care of yourself.

Here are the questions:

  • Can you get PTSD from severe work burnout?
  • What should I do if my therapist doesn't believe that I might by autistic?

As always you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and full show notes are available at duffthepsych.com/episode251

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Apr 30, 2021

Hello, friends! Straightforward Q&A for you today. Here's what I cover:

  • My grandma is taking a supplement that is clearly just placebo. Is this okay?
  • Is it normal to feel grief at the end of a career?

As always, you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and check out duffthepsych.com/episode250 for full show notes. 

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Apr 23, 2021

Hello, all! Please excuse my mistake with the episode number. Bah! I also was perhaps a little delirious, but that just adds to the flavor... right?? 

In this Q&A, I answer the following:

  • Every time I do something for myself, I feel guilty about it. How do I stop this pattern?
  • I felt envy when I heard about someone that lost their life to suicide. Should I feel bad about that?

As always, you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and stop by duffthepsych.com/episode249 for full show notes!

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Apr 16, 2021

Hello, everyone! In this episode, I sit down and have a go at my own journal prompts from the 100 Free Journal Prompts on my website. Some of my responses are entertaining and straight forward... others get pretty personal. Hope you enjoy!

As always, you can send me questions or topics for the show to duffthepsych@gmail.com.

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Apr 9, 2021

Hello, friends! Got another Q&A episode for you. The 2nd question in here could be potentially triggering to some, so please be aware of that. It doesn't go into anything explicit, but the topic is something that some may be sensitive to. Here's what we cover:

  • How can I use exposure to treat health anxiety during this pandemic?
  • My friend's 6-year-old child has suicidal thoughts. How can I best support them?

As always you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and check out the full show notes at duffthepsych.com/episode247

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Apr 2, 2021

Hello, you beautiful people! Today I have a question and answer episode with two great questions sent in by listeners like you. Quick update before that.

I'm current working on a Hardcore Self Help workbook for anxiety. You can get the 100 journal prompts from that notebook as a freebie for signing up at duffthepsych.com/workbook!

Here are the questions:

  • I have come to realize that I've been abused but it's hard to talk about. Do I need to share exactly what happened in therapy?
  • I have a friend with borderline personality disorder and I also have BPD. How can I best support them when they are upset?

As always you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and check out the full show notes at duffthepsych.com/episode246

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Mar 26, 2021

Hello, friends! Got a Q&A for you today that is actually just one two-part question. Stay tuned next week for a freebie update!

Here's two-part question:

  • I'm going through a breakup in a complicated long-term relationship, but I can't talk to people honestly about it. What can I do?
  • Will a therapist report me for being a sex worker?

As always you can send me your questions or topic suggestions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and full show notes are available at duffthepsych.com/episode245

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Mar 19, 2021

Hello, friends! I hope you're having a really good week. This is a Q&A episode with two really important questions. The first one talks about a suicide attempt in a non-graphic way. I wanted to let you know that off the bat so you can be aware going into it. Nothing intense or visually striking, but potentially triggering nonetheless. 

Questions for this episode:

  • I had a suicide attempt that everyone thinks was an accidental overdose. Do I need to tell my family the truth?
  • I have severe bipolar 1 and I have always wanted to become a psychologist and do therapy. Is this possible?

As always you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and if you'd like to see the full show notes head over to duffthepsych.com/episode244

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Mar 12, 2021

Hello, friends! Sorry in advance that the audio is a tiny bit blown out in this one. Hopefully you don't notice, but something weird was going on with my audio interface. 

ANYWAYS... got a great episode here for you today. Two questions that I felt somewhat underqualified to answer, as a man, but they were too good not to share. The questions are:

  • I am realizing that I am more gay than I thought. How can I explore this in the context of my long-term heterosexual relationship?
  • Between a new baby and COVID, my anxiety is getting terrible. What can I do?

As always, you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and if you'd like to see the full show notes, check out duffthepsych.com/episode243!

Mar 5, 2021

Hello, friends! In this episode, I take a few shorter questions covering some amazing topics such as:

  • Will my psychiatrist or therapist drop me for not getting better fast enough?
  • What can I do about financial and job insecurity during COVID?
  • How can I balance working on myself and giving space during a break from my relationship?

As always, you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and if you'd like to see full show notes check out duffthepsych.com/episode242

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Feb 26, 2021

Hello, all! Hope you're happyish and safeish out there. This is a two-question Q&A episode featuring the following:

  • I've tried just about everything to help myself but the pandemic is making it impossible to improve my loneliness. What can I do?
  • I'm worried about my boyfriend looking at hotter women on social media. What can I do about this insecurity?

As always, you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and view the full show notes at duffthepsych.com/episode241

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Feb 19, 2021

Hey, friends! This is just a casual episode of me sharing about what I've been up to lately. It's a big ol' ramble about many topics including:

  • My experience with the COVID vaccine
  • What my newest project is
  • What my days look like right now
  • Balancing work, work, work, and life
  • What I'm doing for fun

Next week will be a Q&A episode, so please send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com

And if you have a moment, please go check out the Giving Voice to Depression podcast!

Feb 12, 2021

Hello, friends! This week, I have another rapid-fire Q&A for you. I took some questions from the private Hardcore Self Help Facebook group and tackled them one by one without any planning or outlining. Hope you enjoy! Here are the questions covered:

  • How do you feel about people using the term "collective PTSD"?
  • What can I do when I always get scared and cancel therapy sessions?
  • Are medications always necessary for severe depression?
  • How can I be a caregiver with anxiety?

As always, you can send me your questions or topics for the show to duffthepsych@gmail.com 

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